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Cynthia:

Today we’re going to talk about a grandmother who had an incredible impact on someone’s life.  I have with me Carol Lethem, who is also an author. She reaches out to caregivers. Welcome, Carol.

Carole:

Thank you, Cynthia. I’m so happy to be here. I’m excited to tell you about my grandmother.

Cynthia:

Your grandmother was more of a mother to you than your mother, right?

Carole:

Yes, I had a very chaotic, crazy childhood. It’s like my life, my whole life has been chaotic.

Cynthia:

I know you well enough to believe that.

Carole:

I had a very chaotic, crazy childhood. Childhood. My grandmother, Lily, was the one constant.

Carole:

We didn’t live by her until I was in my early teens. But when I was a child, she was just this constant. And we would see her two or three times a year. And it was my favorite thing. Each one of us got to go and spend a week with her by ourselves. I cherished those memories so much. I could get away from the craziness and just be loved on.

Cynthia:

What did you learn from your grandmother?

Carole:

My grandmother gave me the love of two things.  One is the love for talking to Jesus and prayer. And she’s the first person I ever, ever, ever saw have a daily relationship with God, where she would sit and read his word.

Carole:

She would pray out loud and had a list of things she would pray for every day. The second thing she gave me a love for was pancakes. To this day, I cannot eat a pancake without thinking about my grandmother. Oddly enough that came from the same original experience. The love for talking to Jesus and the love for pancakes came from the same day.

Carole:

I was about five or six years old. I was spending my time with my grandmother, and I remember waking up one morning and coming down the stairs. As I came around the corner, there was a big, gigantic dining room table. My little tiny grandmother was sitting at the end of the dining room table with her cup of coffee, her Bible, and a notepad.

Carole:

And she had her head bowed. I waddled up. Five years. Six years old. I can’t remember exactly. But I can remember, her eyes were closed. I touched her arm and I said, “Grandma, Grandma, what are you doing?”

Carole:

She pulled me up onto her lap and said, “Okay, hush, hush, baby for a minute. I’m talking to God.”

Carole:

I just sat there in awe for a second as I listened to her go through her list with her eyes closed. I kept waiting for God to speak back because she said she was talking to God. When we got done, I said, “Do you do this every day?”

Carole:

She said, “Yes, I do.”

I said, “Does he ever talk back to you?”

She said, “I’ve never actually heard his voice. But he tells me on the inside.  I hear him on the inside. Someday you will too.  I’m done talking to Jesus this morning. I think it’s a pancake kind of morning, so let’s go into the kitchen and make pancakes.

Carole:

I remember we went into the kitchen and got out all the stuff. She let me stand on the stool next to her with my apron. We made pancakes. To this day, I associate talking to God and pancakes. Many times after I get done reading my scripture, I want a pancake.

Cynthia:

Kids will associate things our love with the things that we cook. That’s a really sweet story.

Carole:

Yeah. Yeah. And, and I remember watching her over the next few years. I would always sneak downstairs because I wanted to see if she was praying.  And she was.

Cynthia:

Yeah. Sweet. What advice would you give to someone with this Mother’s Day coming up?

Carole:

As a grandmother, I would say, cherish those moments when you spend time with them. Understand that they’re growing and I’m not their parent.  That’s a hard one. Sometimes I want to be their parent, but I’m not. And then staying in touch and finding out what stage they’re at.

Give them the gift of time. Uninterrupted time. Turn the phone off. Be present in the moment and try to figure out what’s going on in their lives.  Ask questions.

Cynthia:

It’s good.  Thank you, Carol. You’re such a blessing and I’m so thankful you’re with us today.

Carole:

Thank you so much. Now I think I’m going to go have some pancakes.

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