How to Handle Sibling-Rivalry with Grace

How to Handle Sibling-Rivalry with Grace

Sibling-rivalry can disrupt the peace in your home and set your teeth on edge. There were times I would hear my kids argue or scream and I would roll my eyes. Truly, I wanted to hide because it’s so hard to know the real culprit. Besides most of their squabbles had not basis. One child would not want his sibling to look out his window. What a crime! Of course, I knew I had to enforce property rights. That’s in scripture. Someone can’t steal what you own and if they borrow, they need to ask first. And I also spoke up when I felt one child attacked another’s dignity. That’s never good. However, it was easy for me to get tired, to wish I could keep reading my book, or stay on the couch rather than engage.

And truly many of those childhood disagreements fade over time, especially if you teach Scripture. I love that verse in Psalm 31 that says “the teaching of kindness is on her [mom’s] lips.” Children don’t start off with manners and respect. We must teach that.

However, I knew one family that had a child struggling with a disability. Several of the other kids ridiculed and treated him badly. The family claimed to be Christian, but somehow that didn’t change the torment, and I believe it should have. Pray that sibling-rivalry stays in childhood. In this case, that did not happen, and the siblings carried the hatred into adulthood. That separated the family, and they remained that way.

As we raise our kids we are trying to teach them godly living. It’s so important. Teach them to love each other and to forgive.

Our families are so important to us, yet things happen that we cannot change. It breaks our hearts, but it happens.

My guest today is Julie Cantrell. She has written Perennials, a story about a family with that same brokenness.

Learn more about Julie here.

Sibling Rivalry and Christmas for Blended Families

Sibling Rivalry and Christmas for Blended Families

Christianity offers hope and love to all of us, however, that doesn’t stop sibling-rivalry unless we take steps to ensure each of our children feel our love.

Plan on teaching John 3:16 to your children and live it out in everyday life: “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whoever believes in him has eternal life.”

Parents of blended families struggle even more because they cannot control what their ex-partners might do. What if your ex-spouse decides gives excuses why the child cannot come to your house for Christmas? What if he gives more than you can afford? What if he says things about you that hurt or are untrue?

Laura Petherbridge calls herself the Smart-Step-Mom and reaches out to blended families offering help and guidance. She can plug you into an organization that offers support throughout the year.

You can find Laura here.

1:20 What can you do with your kids who want to compete?

2:35 What’s the best way to handle the holidays with sibling-rivalry?

5:45 What if you are in the midst of a divorce and there’s a tug of war between you and your spouse?

7:50 Explain how to put the child’s interest first.

9:15 How do you put away anger at that ex-spouse?



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