Dirt on the Roses – Romance in Marriage

Dirt on the Roses – Romance in Marriage

We had Mom’s funeral on July 3, 2008.  I wrote this in her memory:

I cringed. Dirt doesn’t go with roses. How could the grave diggers have done that? The breathtaking roses mixed with baby’s breath and pink carnations had been atop mother’s coffin. Now, like a bandage on a sore, the arrangement covered part of the hole where her coffin lay. She and Dad had been married almost fifty-six years. This grave ended their union. Warm tears filled my eyes as I gazed at the bandaged wound.

Their marriage hadn’t been perfect.  As their daughter I knew their flaws as well as I knew my own. But in so many ways they created beauty with their united lives. The fact is, I stood by mom’s grave with other members of my family: my father, my brother, my husband, my five children.

I’ve given lots of thought to the verse in I Corinthians 7 that says “…It is better to marry than to burn.” Yes, God established marriage so that we could experience our sensuality to its fullest. Marriage, however, is far more than that.  God commissioned husband and wife to, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

As one man and one woman come together, they bear children—and their focus changes. It isn’t all about their passion. Instead, with mutual commitment, they work together for the future of their offspring. I saw that in my parents.

After Mom died, warmth washed over me each time I found a romantic card they’d exchanged. Mom had passion but confined it to Dad. In addition, she had talent. If she had decided marriage imprisoned her, she could have sold real estate to support herself. With her ability she could have managed a billion-dollar business. But she didn’t, instead she chose her home.  Numerous times she kept my children, and she made frilly dresses for my girls. I’ll never forget visiting home. Mom would offer a pillow for my back and frozen yogurt in the freezer. If she knew I planned to come, she’d cook my favorite dishes.

Marriage limited my father too. He could have chosen to indulge his passions and find another woman. Or with his interest in history, he could have built a separate life as a tour give at Civil War sites in Chattanooga. His love for cars or guns could have consumed him so that he pushed Mom aside. But he didn’t. Mom became his best friend. He helped me with my cars, fixed my vacuum cleaner, played with my kids and sat with me when I researched history in the Chattanooga library.

And so selfless giving forms the core of marriage. Apart from that, who would care for the kids? Or the grandkids?  Frankly, the sex-crazed media never answers that question. Mom and Dad refused to titillate selfish passion. For almost fifty-six years they built a foundation for the next generation. Not perfect—no I saw dirt on the roses, but beautiful nonetheless.


Heart of the Matter: Happiness in Marriage?

Heart of the Matter: Happiness in Marriage?

Cynthia and Arlene Pelicane discuss achieving happiness in marriage.
 Arlene’s bio:

I am a speaker and author of 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife31 Days to a Happy Husband and 31 Days to a Younger You.  Once when introduced to a group of women, the emcee read my book titles and exclaimed with a smile, “What more do you want from us?”

Dear friend, I do want more for you! 

More happiness in your home.  More closeness to God and others.  More purpose in your day-to-day life.

I can testify that a happy (not perfect) life is attainable even in today’s broken world.  My husband James and I have three young kids and we face many challenges you may be familiar with.  But we have found when your values are clear, the decisions are easy.  Life can be marked by joy.

I’m here to help you figure out how to experience more of that joy.  When I share about marriage, parenting, health, or personal growth, my goal is not only to inspire.  I give practical steps so you know exactly what to do next.

I have provided expertise as a guest for the Today Show, Family Life TodayThe 700 Club, The Better Show, The Hour of Power, Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah, Home Made Simple on TLC and numerous radio programs.  You can watch some of those videos here.

I earned my BA from Biola University and a MA from Regent University.  Before becoming a speaker and author, I served as a features reporter for The 700 Club and associate director for Turning Point Television with David Jeremiah.   

You can contact me at arlene@arlenepellicane.com.  I live in a happy home in San Diego with my husband James and our kids Ethan, Noelle and Lucy.

COTT Olympia Award Winner: Jennifer Rodewald

COTT Olympia Award Winner: Jennifer Rodewald

Jennifer Rodewald won the Olympia Award with her book, Reclaimed.

Jennifer Rodewald is passionate about the Word of God and the powerful vehicle of story. Four kids and her own personal superman make her home in southwestern Nebraska delightfully chaotic.

Aiming to live with boundless enthusiasm, her creed is vision, pursuit and excellence. Blessed with a robust curiosity, she loves to research. Whether she’s investigating the history of a given area, the biography of a Christian icon, or how nature declares the glory of God, her daily goal is to learn something new.

Jen lives and writes in a lovely speck of a town where she watches with amazement while her children grow up way too fast, gardens, plays with her horses, and marvels at God’s mighty hand in everyday life.


To learn more about the contest go to http://www.clashofthetitles.com/
Heart of the Matter: Free from Bondage: Anne Paulk

Heart of the Matter: Free from Bondage: Anne Paulk

Anne Paulk had dreams of Jesus and realized she wanted to know more about him. She finally found a church that told her how she could gain freedom . Anne shares how she ‘gave up her nothing for God’s everything.” To learn more about Anne go to http://www.restoredhopenetwork.org
Contact Cynthia: Cynthia@clsimmons.com
#HeartMtr Radio: Have Problems in Your Marriage?

#HeartMtr Radio: Have Problems in Your Marriage?

Ginny Hamlin shares the theme of her new book.

G.E. Hamlin (Ginny) passionately writes about broken marriages and the restorative power of Jesus Christ. Her stories stem from personal experiences and working in lay ministry as a member of her church. Her characters encounter the natural consequences of addiction to: alcohol, drugs, and sexual immorality. It is Ginny’s hope each story will create a bridge for discussion in real life.


Ginny has been a member of ACFW (American Christian Fiction Writers) for over six years. Her style of writing reflects the qualities of Nicholas Sparks’ soft side and the fast pace of James Patterson. She and her husband Ed have a blended family with five adult children and eight grandchildren. Ginny and her husband live in Southern California where they enjoy the beach, desert, and mountains. As a full time author, she is blessed with frequent opportunities to spend time with the grandchildren.

Marriage Takes Three – Blurb

Darla Connor is struggling with whether to stay in her troubled marriage or walk away. Maintaining a long distance friendship with an old sweetheart isn’t making the decision easier, especially when that sweetheart, now a famous country music star declares his love for her, even though she is married. Randall Connor is a recovering alcoholic and wants to heal his broken marriage, and as a new believer, he is counting on God to help him. When Darla rejects his ultimatum to sever ties with her old boyfriend, he’s in for the battle of his life. Will Darla follow promises of a better life with her old boyfriend, or will she surrender to God in time to save her marriage?

Links to the Web & Social Media Amazon.com order: Marriage Takes Three

Ginny’s Blog is http://eghamlin.com/Gblog

Ginny’s main Facebook page is https://www.facebook.com/GEHamlin

Ginny’s Facebook author Page is https://www.facebook.com/pages/G-E-Hamlin/111808395523799?ref=hl

Google+ https://plus.google.com/ GinnyHamlin/about

Ginny on twitter Twitter.com@GEHamlin

Linked In https://www.linkedin.com/pub/g-e-ginny-hamlin/77/939/89

Ginny’s Goodreads profile is https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/7236005.G_E_Hamlin

Pintrest http://www.pinterest.com/ge0073/


Heart of the Matter: Help for Hurting Marriages

Heart of the Matter: Help for Hurting Marriages

Bob and Christy Meara agonized in their unhappy marriage for years. They share their story and their ministry to couples who think there’s no hope.
To contact Cynthia; Cynthia@clsimmons.com
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