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Grandparenting: Be Phenomenal

October 15, 2016

Grandparenting: Be Phenomenal:

How can you be a phenomenal grandparent? A few months ago, I became a grandparent for the very first time. First, I saw my daughter in labor. What an experience. That wasn’t my favorite part of motherhood. Second, I gazed at this beautiful baby girl who is now part of my family, and I found it hard to express the emotions that washed over me. I recalled my own grandmother and my mother. Plus I thought of the day I had my first child.

I love that precious little girl with every cell in my body, but in many ways being a grandmother is different. Grandmothers aren’t mothers. We aren’t in the driver’s seat. Instead, we sit in the back seat. We don’t name the baby, nor do we make decisions about how the baby is raised.  While we still want the best for that child, we play a secondary role in the child’s life.

So how can you be a good grandmother? I think about the passage the Apostle Paul wrote to Timothy, “I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well.”

God does work in families. He is, after all, the originator of the family. He does want us to impact the next generation. I love the words of Dr. Mary Manz Simon, “We are life veterans. We bring wisdom, experience, and a clear sense of what’s important.”

Dr. Mary Manz Simon is my guest today and she has just written Faith Footprints with my Grandchild.

2:05 Why did you write this book?

3:10 As a grandmother, what have I left behind?

3:30 Is there a meaning behind the book title?

4:45 What are some worries grandmothers have?

5:45 The word grandmother sounds old-fashioned. How can we get past that?

6:55 How can you build a relationship with your grandchild?

[tweetthis]Leave a legacy with your grandchild[/tweetthis]

 

Dr. Mary Simon

Dr. Mary Simon with Cynthia

 

Balance, Bipolar, Boundaries, Church, Communication, Crisis Preparedness, Depression, Dreams, Emotions, Encouragement, Heart of the Matter, Hope, Love, Loving the disabled, Mental illness, Stress Reduction, Suicide, Trust

The Bipolar Experience

October 2, 2016
The bipolar Experience

The Bipolar Experience:

Have you ever been shunned? I’ve always been a little shy and studious. When I was in ninth grade, I took a Spanish class and found it challenging. A friend who was also learning Spanish and I wrote to each other in Spanish in order to learn faster.  I was also taking a Home Ec class that year, and when we finished our sewing project, we could work on other things. Since I was free, I tackled my Spanish epistles  home ec class.

I happened to sit near a group of girls who were very playful and silly. When they found out what I was doing, they found it quite funny. And they began to crack jokes and tease. I brushed them off at first. But as other girls watched, the number of participants grew and things got vicious.  Pretty soon half the room was ridiculing me.

One day after class, I burst into tears and the teacher asked me why. I spilled out my story, and she was horrified.

But I will never forget the feeling of being laughed at. Being weird, odd

If you have a medical problem, people are compassionate, but if you have a mental illness, it’s a different story.

Ephesians 4:32 says we should be kind to each other, tenderhearted. I love that word. It means you ache for someone who hurts. You have compassion.

I have a friend who is bipolar, but she won’t tell anyone because she hears awful stories told of bipolar people. She doesn’t want the label. But these folk are ill, and they need us to be tenderhearted.

Today I have Leeann Jefferies who was a model for Eileen Ford, and author, Eva Marie Everson. Together they wrote Leeann’s story: The Bipolar Experience.

2:15 What is bipolar

3:40 Eva Marie, this is been part of your life too. Please share your story.

3:55 Describe cycling

6:00 Leeann, tell me how you feel

6:50 What does a high feel like?

10:15 What’s the answer for the manic phases?

 

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Anger, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Emotions, Heart of the Matter, Love, Making choices, Muslim, Safety

Love Your Muslim Neighbor

July 23, 2016
Love Your Muslim Neighbor

Love Your Muslim Neighbor – Wow! How can we do that?

Many today are wary of Muslims.I don’t know about you, but  I feel a little uncomfortable around them. You can  justify being uneasy  based on the many attacks around the world. Recently we received evidence an Islamic terrorist carried out the shooting in Orlando and the terrorist attack in Nice, France. In fact, many of us have been uncomfortable since 9/11 when terrorist attacked the twin towers. Add to that the horrors of Isis. We keep seeing heart-rending videos of them slaughtering those Christians and burning anyone who disagrees. Fear doesn’t seem unreasonable, and I too struggle with being afraid.

But God calls us not to fear: Matthew 10:28  “And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.” Those words might be easy to say and hard to do, but we must remember believers have eternal life. We are blessed with riches beyond what we can imagine, and we are called to love those for whom Christ died.  Luke 6:27 “But I (Jesus) say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.”

Last fall I heard Nabeel Qureshi speak about his Muslim upbringing, and I read his book, Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus. His story  revolutionized my view of Muslims. Most of them are nonviolent and hate what they see in the news. I found myself softening toward them and wanting to reach out. How can we make friends with them?

Today I have Ken Philpot with me. He’s a pastor in California, and he has reached out to Muslims in his area. He’s written a book called If Allah Wills. 1:10 What happens if you ask to visit their mosque?

1:10 What happens if you ask to visit their mosque?

1:10 What happens if you ask to visit their mosque?

1:30 Different kinds of Muslims

2:20 Go to Friday Prayers, and open time

3:10 Muslim attitude toward women

4:20 Could a lady visit a Muslim Mosque?

5:20 The Muslim handshake

5:50 A couple reaching out to Muslims

7:35 Cultures who have guilt, versus honor

8:45 Shame on the family in the Muslim culture

9:40 Muslim family vs the clan

10:10 What we can learn from them

11:00 Muslim religion is outward

12:15 Muslim fears

12:40 Two ways Muslims go to heaven

13:20 Contrast Christianity

14:15 Second Muslim fear

15:30 The Apostate

16:30 Dominate motivator

Love Your Muslim Neighbor

Ken Philpot

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You can find Pastor Philpot’s book  here.

Anger, Authority of Scripture, Bible, chocolate, Church, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Crying out to God, Death, Emotions, Encouragement, Family, Grief, Heart of the Matter, Living through heartache, Love, Parenting, Praise, Trust, Truth, Walking by Faith

Healthy Grief Processing

July 1, 2016
Carol McLeod

Healthy Grief Processing – Carol McLeod is my guest today. She’s an expert on grief processing after losing five babies.

Nobody wants grief. Truly! Like many of you, I grew up in America. All my life I expected good things. WE had the freedom to pursue whatever career we wanted, and I had dreams of being gloriously happy. On the other hand, the church taught we would face heartache. I heard that, but I’m not sure I really believed. My husband was the same way. He even commented how he was tired of singing about the ‘Sweet Bye and Bye’ while ignoring the ‘nasty now and now.’

However, the longer you life, you see heartache and sorrow. I can say now the Lord has walked me through some grueling times, things we never dreamed we’d face. Now I sense the brokenness of our world. It’s shocking the intensity of the pain we see. God designed us to live in a perfect work, and we ache when we see tragedy.

My husband calls Romans chapter eight ‘Groaning 101.’ “For we know what they whole creation groans and suffers the pains of childbirth until now. Woe! you talk about childbirth, and we ladies can relate. That’s serious pain. And yes, that’s our world.

But the Apostle Paul wasn’t finished. “For I consider the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed.” (Romans 8:18) That’s a pretty huge contrast. The sufferings, however hefty they may be, can’t outweigh the glory we will have. What a statement. We all need that hope.

Here’s a guide to topics you might enjoy in the interview:

How to be attuned to God: 2:20

J0y Defined: 3:50

Healthy Grief: 6:5

Process your grief: 7 :25

David’s Grief: 8:5 Seconds

Broken Heart: 6:40 Seconds

Carol’s addiction: 13:45 Seconds

Life in Layers: 11:32 Seconds

Listen to Carol McLeod below:

Speaker, Bible teacher

Carol McLeod

You can pre-order Carol’s book here.

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Anger, Boundaries, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Design, Doing Family God's Way, Emotions, Encouragement, Family, Heart of the Matter, Hope, Love, Making choices, Marriage, Respect, Romance, Truth, Walking by Faith

Tie the Knot Permanently: Key to Wedded Bliss

June 24, 2016

Tie the Knot—-Permanently: The key to wedded bliss

My guest, Rob Green talks about preparing to tie the knot and keep it tied. In other words, what actions can we take to get married and stay madly in love?

Most of us women have a romantic side. We love the idea of Cinderella, wedding dresses, flowers, and the happily ever after. But today many marriages don’t last. That’s not God’s plan. Look at this passage in Luke. “For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it?”

This passage speaks of preparing ahead of time before building. Any of us would educate ourselves before we started a business. You’d never think of offering your skills as a seamstress or as a book keeper or a nurse unless you studied and prepared. I believe the same holds true of marriage. Marriage is the first institution God founded, and we know from Ephesians that the relationship between a husband and wife is an analogy for Christ and the Church. Entering marriage should be sacred, and our vows held as sacred.
Many today think too lightly of marriage or don’t even bother to marry. Some are even fearful of marriage and decide to live together instead.

Tying the Knot

Rob Green

My guest offers hope. Rob Green is a counseling pastor, and he shares his experience with lots of couples who struggle to hold it together. Listen to his interview for answers:

Find problem-solving strategies 18:34.
1:52, Rob shares why it’s important to be committed to Christ.
Are you afraid of marriage? 5:57.
The world loves a romance. Go to 7:28.
Access tools to love and serve your spouse? You’ll find that at 9:25.
What about submission? You’ll hear Rob’s answer at 11:35

Find Rob Green’s book.

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Communication, Divorce, Doing Family God's Way, Emotions, Family, Goals, Heart of the Matter, Hope, Love, Making choices, Marriage, Respect, Romance, Truth, Walking by Faith

Thriving Marriage: Greg and Julie Gorman

June 3, 2016
Two are Better Than One

Thriving Marriage: Greg and Julie Gorman

Greg and Julie Gorman believe your marriage can do more than survive; it can thrive. Let me explain with a story.

My grandmother lived about thirty miles from us, and at times, my mother would allow me to spend a week with my grandmother. It was an adventure,  particularly that she had cats, and they fascinated me.

Granny used to wash clothes using a wringer type washer. And that was terribly old-fashioned at that time, cause mom had a real washing machine. But a wringer washing machine would wash the clothes, but not rinse. So Granny would get these huge buckets of clear water, and put the soapy clothes in there. She’d run them through the ringer into the next bucket of clean water. While she was doing that, she would ‘allow’ me to wash the cats.

Now, if you know cats, they hate water. But Granny wasn’t bothered about that. She said you couldn’t ever drown a cat. Well, I heard that I was gonna try. Now I got all scratched up, but I wrestled one of Granny’s cats and until it gave up. Now I was kind enough that I didn’t go on to kill the kitty. But I had to prove granny wrong.
All that to say, God is very very creative. I would never have thought of all that. Really! God said, “My thoughts are not your thoughts, and my ways are not your ways.”

I’m sure if it was up to me, I would not have made everyone in the church have a different spiritual gift.  I would have had everyone alike so they wouldn’t argue. But God made everyone different. Some are good at some things, while others excel elsewhere. That’s the way God made families too. Husbands and wives are different. Once I got married, my husband saw my emotions and said I wasn’t logical. I wanted to remind him I graduated with honors.

Today I have Greg and Julie Gorman. They have just written Two are Better than One, and I love their perspective on marriage. They teach God has a purpose for your Marriage. It can thrive!

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Learn more about Greg and Julie here.

Anger, Bible, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Divorce, Emotions, Encouragement, Family, Heart of the Matter, Love, Male Temperment, Marriage, Prayer, Respect, surrender

Understanding Male Temperment

May 1, 2016
Cynthia's husband

Understanding Male Temperament

A married woman soon realizes her husband doesn’t think like she does, and that difference may create tension. A man tends to be goal-oriented and less comfortable expressing emotion. Whereas women are nurturers and long for safety and security to raise our offspring. We can multi-task. He must focus, and when he does, he won’t hear the kids fighting. The distinctions can make it hard to work together.

Let’s go back in history to learn how the creator made us. We know the story of creation. God showed Adam the animals and asked him to name them. I can imagine that. God had the male and female of every species march past him. It probably took all day for him to finish his job. Doubtless, by the time his chore was over, he came to realize he was missing his counterpart. Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18) The words ‘helper fit’ means corresponding to . We are the other half. We are opposites.

Because of our design, male and female responses vary. For instance, if we women face a new and difficult challenge, often we want hugs and encouragement. Maybe we’ll need some sympathy if the transition gets tough. Compare that to King David. He was about to die and hand the kingdom over to his son, Solomon. He said, “I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, and show yourself a man.” Men don’t like sympathy. They prefer someone express confidence they can handle hard times. We don’t quite understand that.

A frustrated woman wants to vent her frustrations. If we talk to another woman, we’ll get a listening ear and comfort. Husbands will appear unconcerned about our emotions while they try to fix the problem.

Today Deane Groseclose is my guest. She is the founder of Cross Purpose Ministries and counsels people who have issues in their relationships.

Learn more about Deane here.

Counselor

Deane Groseclose

 

 

 

 

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