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Christmas and PTSD

December 19, 2015
Christmas and PTSD
Kathi Macias

Kathi Macias

 

Christmas is a time of joy, and it should be.  As believers we celebrate because we understand the hope we have. Jesus died to give us eternal life. When we come to know him we have a reason to live for something bigger than ourselves.

 

But it also important to realize that because our world is messed up, not everyone will be happy.

 

For instance, men who serve in the military often struggle with PTSD, which is post traumatic stress. It’s so important for us to understand this disorder so we can offer help.

 

There’s also a disorder for children called Attachment disorder. A child who has this is fearful of bonding with an adult. They crave it, yet they fear it too. They don’t have appropriate social behavior with others.

Kathi Macias wrote about PTSD and Attachment Syndrome in her latest book. She shares more about both and how we can minister to our solders who struggle to adjust to life after the horrors of battle.

 

Romans 12:15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Learn more about Kathi Macias here.

To learn more  about PTSD and how to help those who suffer. Go  here.

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Fiery Trials

October 16, 2015
Speaker, Bible teacher

Fiery Trials

Once I heard someone describe the song Amazing Grace as a white spiritual. After getting over my shock, I realized this man thought the song was written to express our disappointment over life’s hardships. Clearly he didn’t grasp redemption, but all of us realize things aren’t right. Let’s face it, our world is broken. God didn’t design us to live in a damaged world.

Romans chapter eight talks about this.  My husband calls this passage groaning 101. Verse twenty-two and twenty-three say, “For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies.”

Sometimes those groans blaze into a raging fire.  What then?

Today I have Carol McLeod. Her ministry is all about suffering.  Her latest book is Refined.

Learn more about Carol here.

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Letters from My Fathers Murderer

September 18, 2015

Letters from My Fathers Murderer

We have a strong inborn sense of justice that comes from God. You’ll hear young children say, “That’s not fair.” Or “You’re wrong.”

I’ve heard Christian leaders say we have no rights, and I strongly disagree. The OT makes it clear that we do. The Ten Commandments state that someone should not steal our possessions or speak against us. I cannot steal your money or your watch. And much of the OT laws taught proportional justice. When someone harmed you, or violated your rights, the punishment should match the crime.

For instance, if you borrowed someone’s ax and broke it, you had to replace it. Or if you borrowed a horse that died while you cared for it, you had to buy another horse for that person.

The punishment matched the crime.

Now when someone violates one of those rights, you feel harmed and want that made right. Sometimes, an apology is enough. In others restitution needs to take place. There are times when someone hurts you and the outcome is not up to you`. For instance a pastor hurt my husband once and never humbled himself to say he was sorry. It was hard to forgive that man, but it was important that I do that.

Laurie Coombs tells the story of her father’s murder and her journey toward forgiveness.

Learn more about Laurie here.

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Parenting and Praise

August 29, 2015

Parenting and Praise:

For me, parenting and praise don’t belong in the same category. Many days I find it hard to do even though it pleases God. On days when I drag my feet, I remind myself how incredible God is. After all,  the Psalmist said, “Shout for joy in the LORD, O you righteous! Praise befits the upright.” Very convicting. I have to work at it.

My guest, Becky Harling, found added benefits of praise. She shared how much it impacted her life and her parenting. Listen, enjoy, learn!

You can find her here.

 

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The Tragedy of Suicide

August 14, 2015

The tragedy of suicide is all around us, and the numbers are growing. Susan Titus Osborn shares ways to cope should a loved one make such a heart-breaking choice.

Susan Titus Osborn has a passion for teaching budding authors to write for publication. She is the director of the Christian Communicator Manuscript Critique Service where she heads a staff of 18 editors. She has authored over 30 books, as well as numerous articles. She is on the CLASSeminars staff, a member of Advanced Christian Writers and Speakers Association (AWSA), and a member of Christian Authors Network (CAN). Susan represents New Hope Publishers for nonfiction books at writers’ conferences. Her past positions include magazine editor and adjunct professor at four Christian colleges. She has spoken extensively across the US at over 150 writers’ conferences and in eight foreign countries. Susan lives with her husband, Dick, in Fullerton, California. They enjoy camping in their fifth-wheel trailer with their five children, twelve grandchildren, and three great-grandson.

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How does a Believer Grieve?

July 30, 2015

How does a believer grieve? Susan Vandepol, lost her husband due to a work related accident. She stood by his bed with her young children as he passed away.  Now she’s a grief counselor and the author of Life After Breath.

Find out more about Susan here.

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Is There Hope for a Failing Marriage?

July 26, 2015

Is there hope for a failing marriage?  Cynthia Ruchti discusses topics from her new book, As Waters Gone By. Listen to Cynthia share stories hemmed in hope.

Find Cynthia here.

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How Shall We Live Now?

July 9, 2015

The latest landmark  court decision distressed many believers. Our world changed, drastically. In light of that, how shall we live now? Cynthia interviewed Denise Shick of Help 4 Families, and Pastor Dane Skelton for answers. Listen and be encouraged.

Denise Shick’s ministry is found here.

Find more about Dane Skelton here.

Denise Shick

Denise Shick

Pastor Dane Skelton

Pastor Dane Skelton

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Mothers with a Prodigal Child

May 8, 2015

Mothers with a prodigal child often detest Mother’s day. Janet Perez Eckles offers hope. Learn more about Janet at www.janetperezeckles.com

How can you help the mother of a prodigal? One mother answers:

I never expected to find myself in this plight. Ever. The news blew my world into tiny shards. I poured my soul into my children. I gave all I had, and then more. When we revealed the bad news, I felt as if I’d released hot air from an overinflated balloon that threatened to pop.  Afterwards, I came to church bleeding, bruised, and broken. Fellow believers tried to show they cared but didn’t know how. So what does the mother of a prodigal need?

Please don’t give me a pep talk. My mind shuts down after the first sentence. The energetic words feel like a baseball bat flogging my soul. I crave gentleness.
Please don’t tell me to love my child. It’s like tossing my shattered heart into a food processor. I wouldn’t hurt so badly if I didn’t love so deeply. Those words make me feel charged, accused, and sentenced, when I committed no crime.

Please don’t give advice unless I request it. Mothers can’t tell the entire story. Besides I’m too emotionally exhausted to do that anyway.  I can’t and won’t explain why recommendations won’t work. Pat answers don’t help. Formulas are a bit unwieldy because my situation is unique.

Please understand my grief. I do have hope, but no guarantees. God is all powerful, but he also gives people freedom to sin. The Lord doesn’t always fix problems this side of heaven, and I’m trying to live now. That’s hard enough.

On the other hand…

Please let me talk. At times I feel like I’m going to explode, and if someone lets me share, it lightens the burden. Once I fill you in on the latest, a hug is great medicine. Offer your love and remind me you’re always ready to listen.

Please pray for me. Assure me you’ll continue to lift our family to God. That touches me deeply.

Please let me cry and encourage me. Rub my back while I weep your shoulder. I feel vulnerable and out of control. Tell me I’m still a valuable part of God’s church, and I have something vital to give. Remind me that I bear no guilt.

Thank you for helping me heal.

 

Weep with those who weep. Romans 12:15

 

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Rape Recovery

May 1, 2015

Rape Recovery: Amber Kay, author of Perfectly Broken, shares her story and lists the elements that led to her recovery. Learn more about Amber at www.ambermauldin.com.

 

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