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Bob Fife’s Experience: Gaining Freedom

March 17, 2017
Gaining Freedom

Bob Fife Shares his Experience Gaining Freedom

I don’t know if you have an itch to be perfect, but I do. I was a straight a student in school, and I worked so hard not to make any mistakes.  That tendency to long for good grades has snuck into my everyday life. I cannot bear to err.  And I know I fail all the time. The older I get, the more I am aware of the wickedness that resides in me. I wish it was not there.

Romans 3:23 says “For All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Everyone agrees none of us are perfect, but some have a leaning toward different sins. Sin separates us from God, but the consequences of some sins are more extreme than others.

Either way, we can become snared in sin and be unable to free ourselves.

In 2 Peter, the apostle speaks of false teachers when he writes:  “They promise them freedom, but they themselves are slaves of corruption. For whatever overcomes a person, to that he is enslaved.” This verse makes it clear that a person can become a slave of sin.  Fortunately, the Apostle John shares you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

Bob Fife was enslaved by homosexuality for twenty years. His book, Out, tells his story of breaking free.

Learn more about Bob here.

2:10 Did the church reach out to you as you entered the lifestyle?

3:10 What was your family situation growing up?

4:38 What was your relationship like with your father?

6:20 I understand you were molested as a child.

9:00 A lot of people believe a homosexual cannot claim faith in Christ. Tell me how you did.

10:35 What keeps people in the lifestyle?

11:44 What was the catalyst that brought you out of perversion?

13:45 You said the homosexual community has conditional love. Can you explain that?

 

Bob Fife

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Guidance Teaching Your Children Biblical Topics: A Parent’s Job

March 8, 2017
Bible Studies

Guidance Teaching Your Kids Biblical Topics

We’ve often covered topics relating to our responsibilities as parents, and we’ve discussed this passage in Deuteronomy. “…you shall teach them [God’s Laws} diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.” That’s pretty intense because you will be teaching all the time.

Teaching the Bible to your children can be challenging since you have developmental issues mixing with doctrinal issues. And I am going to tell a couple stories about myself.

When I was young, I attended a church that was very missions oriented. They had mission conferences often and people would come forward saying God called them. Lots of them talked about how they didn’t want to be on the mission field, but they were miserable not following God. I assumed if you didn’t want to do missions, then God had called you. That was the last thing I wanted, which meant I had to do it. So I said God called me to be a missionary.

The other story is about my family. Mom and Dad had a name for each grandparent. For instance, my grandmother on Dad’s side was Granddad Thomas. On mother’s side, it was Granddad Cofer. My uncle was Eugene. I never saw his name, so as a child, I envisioned his name to be U.Gene because he was my uncle. It made sense to me that the U was a shortened form of Uncle. Once I grew up and heard the name Eugene, I realized my mistake.

Both of these stories show that children think differently when they are young. Realizing their developmental stage helps to understand how our children might get confused. My guest is Jann Martin, who holds a degree in Elementary Education.

 

You can learn more about Jann Martin here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Parenting Guidance: Raising Disciples at Home with Melissa Spoelstra

January 20, 2017
Raising Disciples at Home

Parenting Guidance: Raising Disciples at Home

Dr. James Dobson wrote a book called, Parenting isn’t for Cowards.  What a true statement. What an incredible feeling to hold your first baby in your arms. It’s a miracle! You examine all the fingers and fingernails. And the sweet little feet. I was a registered nurse and I checked all their reflexes. Such an experience. I had five children and I found it overwhelming each time. But I also felt the weight of reasonability. You know that your choices will profoundly impact the baby’s future.

I took psychology classes as part of my nursing, and it was impossible not to notice how many things get blamed on parents. There’s so much to think about.

I can recall wanting the very best for each baby, but I was taken aback by how different each child was. With my first two children, I said I had opposites, and then as I kept having children, they were different too. How many opposites are there? They have different needs and respond differently to every situation. I was intensely aware that I needed godly guidance. I had a disabled child, and after all the experience I had, I needed the Lord’s help.

Deuteronomy 6:7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

What a command! That verse is enough to make you nervous.

Melissa Spoelstra wrote a book called T0tal Family Makeover, and she’s here to share with us.

Raise Disciples at Home

Melissa Spoelstra

 

 

 

For Melissa’s Website click here: http://melissaspoelstra.com/

 

 

 

 

2:40 You state your kids are NOT your report card. Explain.

5:55 How can you have spiritual conversations with your kids?

8:25 Explain the ‘question game.’

12:40 Questions about pain in the world.

13:40 Teaching the Bible

18:00 Teaching your child to serve.

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Praying for Your Child While He’s Away

January 13, 2017
Edie Melson

Praying for Your Child While He’ Away

God make mothers to be nurturers. He wove that desire into our design. In fact, I still want to mother even though my kids are grown, so I use my mothering instincts on my cats.

There’s a story in 2 Kings four about the Shunammite woman. She noticed the prophet Elisha walking past her house, and she chose to help him. Her husband built a room for the prophet so he’d have a place to stay when he passed through town. Elisha was grateful, so he asked what he could do for her. She didn’t give him ideas, but Elisha’s servant pointed out that she had no children. So Elisha prayed for her to have a child.

After the boy’s birth, he went out into the fields where his father was working and became ill. He fell to the ground screaming, “Oh, my head!”

The father immediately ordered his servants to take the child to his mother. His mother held him until noon that day, and then he died. The mom went to find the prophet who raised him from the dead.

Let’s focus on that one phrase, the father said the moment he knew his son was ill “Take him to his mother.” That describes us. (of course, there are exceptions). We care for our children and will move all sorts of obstacles to make life work for them. However, we must learn to let our children go and face life on their own. It’s a tough assignment for us.

Today, my guest is Edie Melson. She had a son who became a soldier and went on active duty to fight. How scary. She wrote the book, While My Child is Away. She will give some tips on mothering that child who is leaving the nest.

2:10 What is the Headless Horseman of Faith?

3:30 How can we as mothers listen to our emotions and yet use them appropriately?

5:24 What about those times we fear failing as a parent?

6:45 Tell us the frog story? What does it teach us?

9:00 Share about loving the people your kids are with.

10:30 You had a son in the military, and you know about the ‘what ifs.’ How can we handle those?

13:00 Leaving the child with the Lord:

14:05 How can you avoid the trap of allowing your kid’s choices to define you?

16:10 What about the stuff that hurts?

Edie Melson

Edie Melson

 

 

 

 

 

Learn more about Edie here.

Leave a comment and you’ll be part of a drawing for a free signed book!

 

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Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess: Author Karen Whiting

December 16, 2016
Raising Young Modern Day Princess

Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess: Author Karen Whiting

How should a mother raise a ‘modern-day’ princess? That’s a good question. Being a woman today is more complicated than it should be. I don’t mind the women’s movement. After all, those early activists gave us the right to vote in 1920. However, a radical feminist movement has become part of our culture. Those women who lead the movement believe women live oppressed in a male-dominated world. Here are three of their stated goals. First, they want to take the masculine he/him out of our language, which has largely happened. Second, they want to refashion the role of women in society and the home. Third, they want to free women from childbearing through abortion and birth control.

As a result of this movement, many young women are confused about who and what they are. However, moms can have a significant impact on our children as we rear them according to Scripture. My guest today is Karen Whiting. She’s a best-selling author and mother of five. She has written the book, Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess.

2:10 What prompted you to write this book?

2:55 What are some ways a mother can teach her daughter to be a gracious lady?

4:10 How can you foster a teachable spirit?

5:00 It’s natural for mothers to find fault. How can we encourage toward excellence instead?

5:45 What are Mom tools?

7:40 Give us tips on how to get to know our child.

9:20 What if you have a melancholy child?

10:35 What should you do if one child has a birthday and another sibling, who is watching, becomes jealous?

11:35 Give us ways to infuse Scriptural principles into our girls?

15:00 What if your daughter refuses to talk?

15:59 Mothers do a lot. How can a busy mother find ways to climb into her daughter’s mind and personality?

17:25 Refusing extra jobs?

 

Modern day Princess

Karen Whiting

 

 

 

 

 

Learn more about Karen here.

Anger, Avoiding humdrum, Boundaries, Christmas holiday, Communication, Doing Family God's Way, Emotions, Family, Forgiveness, Guilt, Heart of the Matter, Love, Making choices, Parenting, People Pleaser, Responsiblity, Stress Reduction, Walking by Faith

Learn Ways to Handle Difficult Relatives that Make Christmas Miserable

December 9, 2016
Christmas

Get Along with Difficult Relatives at Christmas

Difficult relatives can make your Christmas miserable. Family can give us the most fulfillment when we actually connect with them, However, they can also cause the most heartache because we love them and long for their approval.  With the holidays coming, we all dread grumpy Uncle Bill or feisty Aunt Sally. Past hurts can also intensify the impact of uncomfortable encounters.

My father used to crack the same jokes every year and expect us to laugh. If I didn’t respond to his humor, he’d tease me about how my face looked, as if he thought I was holding in my response.

Mother would make a huge meal for Thanksgiving. I’d select certain foods, but not others, knowing I couldn’t eat it all. She would always point out what I missed, as if I overlooked that dish by accident. Plus she would attempt to get us all to eat more, even when we were full.

My grandmother would make snide comments with an innocent look on her face, and she’d do annoying things.  she favored boys over girls and she’d always make sure we knew how much she spent on the boys. If we asked her to do anything, she’d do the exact opposite.

Well, you know how it goes. Romans 12:18  says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”  Wow! That’s a hefty command.

Today I have two guests. The first is Angela Breidenbach. She’s a life coach and a terribly fun person. The second is Linda Rondeau. Both can give insight on this issue.

 

Learn more about Angela here.

Author and Speaker

Angela Breidenbach

3:10 Give us suggestions Angela.

4:00 Open ended questions

5:00 What can you do if your relative is unlikely to succumb to your charms?

7:00 How can we engage the elderly relatives?

7:50 Start  with good memories.

11:50 Ask questions about their stories

20:30 Use mad libs

20:55 How might coloring books help?

32:26 How do  secrets play into a difficult relationship?

34:00 Talk about forgiveness.

Learn more about Linda here.

Linda Rondeau

 

Bible, Christian History, Christmas, Christmas holiday, Church, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Educating your children, Encouragement, Family, Heart of the Matter, Parenting, Time

Karen Whiting: Christmas Advent – Teach Kids While They Wait

November 25, 2016
Karen Whiting

Karen Whiting: Christmas Advent – Teach Kids While They Wait

As a child, Christmas was a magical time for me. I loved the lights, the color, the carols, the excitement. I have lots of fond memories. At our church, combined choirs would do parts of Messiah every year. What a feast for the senses! Mother always made us wait for a tree because she liked real trees, and she worried about the tree drying out. It seemed like we were always the last to get a tree, but the big day would always arrive.  Once the tree was up, she’d let us decorate. She’d hand us icicles, which were long, thin and shiny. She expected us to hang the icicles one by one one. I found it much more exciting to toss them on the tree. They always landed in interesting shapes which reflected the lights so nicely. However, I can remember how Christmas took forever to arrive.  I remember talking about the eve of the eve of Christmas Eve, and then the eve of Christmas Eve.

The Christmas 2016  has arrived. The baby in the manger can easily be overlooked in our digital world. Parents must work to keep the focus on the true meaning of Christmas rather than the commercials and ads that catch the children’s attention. What a challenge! While we are busy preparing for the holiday, our children may grow restless since time passes slowly for them. Karen Whiting has written a book called Christmas is Coming, but Waiting is Hard.  She has lots of ideas to share.

1:25 What are some activities that can help kids focus while they wait?

2:55 Do you cover the history of Christmas?

4:15 Share some traditions of the past and their meanings.

5:10 What is the peace candle?

7:01 What does red have to do with Christmas?

7:30 How about green?

8:00 What about the Christmas stocking?

9:15 How can you keep the new gadget or toy from becoming the focus of Christmas?

Learn more about Karen here.

Waiting is Hard

Karen Whiting

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Become a Detective: Learn to Discern!

October 28, 2016
Learn to Discern

Become a Detective: Learn to Discern!

It’s important to learn to think and discern for yourself, especially for young people. Jim Wallace, Cold Case Detective does that.

I grew up in the church. My family attended several times a week plus we attended all the special services which our congregation offered throughout the year.

By the time I got in my teens, I had questions. I’d seen the imperfections in the people around me and naturally, I became skeptical

How can we know for sure what we believe is true? What if someone has just tricked us? I believe those sorts of doubts are normal.

About that time, the Francis Shaffer movies came out. He compared Ch to the little stone bridges the Romans built. He said those bridges could handle the weight of the horse and buggies of their day, and even the wagons, but they couldn’t hold the weight of the semi.  Well, unlike those bridges, Christianity is strong. It can withstand our doubts because it’s true.

I became interested in apologetics.

Of course, I read Josh McDowell, Gary Habermas,  C.S. Lewis, Lee Strobel. And my husband and I are particularly fond of William Lane Craig. But I still had a few questions about the gospels. Until one day I came across a book called Cold Case Christianity. I loved it. I understand that a book is coming out for kids also. Author Jim Wallace will soon even be offering an online course for kids to earn badges as a detective.

 

Today I have the author, J Warner Wallace.

1:55 How did you come to faith in Christ?

3:30 How does a detective look at eyewitness testimony?

4:20  The book of John was  different because he came later. Can you explain how that works?

6:25 The three synoptic gospels are similar yet they have differences. Can you explain how you reconcile that?

8:20 Reconciling different stories about the same event.

13:05 What did you see in the Gospels that made you come to faith in Christ?

Learn more here about the book for adults. Click here for the book for kids.

Learn to Discern

Jim Wallace, Cold Case Detective

Being a grandmother, Boundaries, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Emotions, Family, Goals, Heart of the Matter, Leaving a legacy, Love, Mothering, Parenting, Walking by Faith

Grandparenting: Be Phenomenal

October 15, 2016

Grandparenting: Be Phenomenal:

How can you be a phenomenal grandparent? A few months ago, I became a grandparent for the very first time. First, I saw my daughter in labor. What an experience. That wasn’t my favorite part of motherhood. Second, I gazed at this beautiful baby girl who is now part of my family, and I found it hard to express the emotions that washed over me. I recalled my own grandmother and my mother. Plus I thought of the day I had my first child.

I love that precious little girl with every cell in my body, but in many ways being a grandmother is different. Grandmothers aren’t mothers. We aren’t in the driver’s seat. Instead, we sit in the back seat. We don’t name the baby, nor do we make decisions about how the baby is raised.  While we still want the best for that child, we play a secondary role in the child’s life.

So how can you be a good grandmother? I think about the passage the Apostle Paul wrote to Timothy, “I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well.”

God does work in families. He is, after all, the originator of the family. He does want us to impact the next generation. I love the words of Dr. Mary Manz Simon, “We are life veterans. We bring wisdom, experience, and a clear sense of what’s important.”

Dr. Mary Manz Simon is my guest today and she has just written Faith Footprints with my Grandchild.

2:05 Why did you write this book?

3:10 As a grandmother, what have I left behind?

3:30 Is there a meaning behind the book title?

4:45 What are some worries grandmothers have?

5:45 The word grandmother sounds old-fashioned. How can we get past that?

6:55 How can you build a relationship with your grandchild?

 

Dr. Mary Simon

Dr. Mary Simon with Cynthia

 

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Fight with your Spouse and Grow Together

September 2, 2016
Fight or not to fight

Fight with your Spouse and Grow Together

Someone actually advocates fighting? Wow. You’ll love their answers.

“The wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable.” James 3:17

When you got married, you probably had stars in your eyes and romance in your heart. Many of us didn’t think much about the happily ever after part, but I grew up thinking peaceable meant hardly any conflict. Here’s a story about that.

We’ve all heard of the Victorian Age, and you probably have bad feelings about that time period. Well, Queen Victoria and her husband Albert were believers. That might surprise you, but they deliberately chose to set an example for the nation.

Victoria grew up in a home without a father. Her English father died when she was an infant, and her mother wasn’t particularly wise about getting along with people. Because her mother hoped to be regent when her daughter ascended the throne.

Victoria thought that no conflict was the goal in marriage. And she was queen. So when she married the man she loved, Prince Albert, she was in charge. And she gave him nothing to do. Plus the British constitution had no role for the prince consort. Well, it wasn’t long before Albert was quite frustrated.

The good news is that Albert was a strong believer, and he set a goal of ministering to his wife/family and the people of Britain. Their beginning was rocky. Victoria would get upset and scream. She was famed for her temper, but he was gentle and firm.

Not authentic, but it represents what actually went on. There’s a story told about Albert locking himself into a room. When she knocked he would ask who is there. If she said the queen. He wouldn’t allow her in. After a couple of years, he was able to convince her he had a better way. And together they built an incredible marriage which was the envy of Europe.

My guests today are Ron and Deb DeArmond. They wrote the book, Don’t Go to Bed Angry.

3:04 What gave rise to the book?

3:42 Leaving your baggage

4:35 Arguments in the DeArmond house

5:10 Their parameters

5:40 How to set parameters

6:40 Recovery from a heated discussion

8:20 Listening actively

9:00 Knowing how you process information is key

12:00 How to ‘table’ an intense discussion

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