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Bob Fife’s Experience: Gaining Freedom

March 17, 2017
Gaining Freedom

Bob Fife Shares his Experience Gaining Freedom

I don’t know if you have an itch to be perfect, but I do. I was a straight a student in school, and I worked so hard not to make any mistakes.  That tendency to long for good grades has snuck into my everyday life. I cannot bear to err.  And I know I fail all the time. The older I get, the more I am aware of the wickedness that resides in me. I wish it was not there.

Romans 3:23 says “For All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Everyone agrees none of us are perfect, but some have a leaning toward different sins. Sin separates us from God, but the consequences of some sins are more extreme than others.

Either way, we can become snared in sin and be unable to free ourselves.

In 2 Peter, the apostle speaks of false teachers when he writes:  “They promise them freedom, but they themselves are slaves of corruption. For whatever overcomes a person, to that he is enslaved.” This verse makes it clear that a person can become a slave of sin.  Fortunately, the Apostle John shares you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

Bob Fife was enslaved by homosexuality for twenty years. His book, Out, tells his story of breaking free.

Learn more about Bob here.

2:10 Did the church reach out to you as you entered the lifestyle?

3:10 What was your family situation growing up?

4:38 What was your relationship like with your father?

6:20 I understand you were molested as a child.

9:00 A lot of people believe a homosexual cannot claim faith in Christ. Tell me how you did.

10:35 What keeps people in the lifestyle?

11:44 What was the catalyst that brought you out of perversion?

13:45 You said the homosexual community has conditional love. Can you explain that?

 

Bob Fife

Bible, Child Development, Communication, Educating your children, Family, Heart of the Matter, Parenting

Guidance Teaching Your Children Biblical Topics: A Parent’s Job

March 8, 2017
Bible Studies

Guidance Teaching Your Kids Biblical Topics

We’ve often covered topics relating to our responsibilities as parents, and we’ve discussed this passage in Deuteronomy. “…you shall teach them [God’s Laws} diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.” That’s pretty intense because you will be teaching all the time.

Teaching the Bible to your children can be challenging since you have developmental issues mixing with doctrinal issues. And I am going to tell a couple stories about myself.

When I was young, I attended a church that was very missions oriented. They had mission conferences often and people would come forward saying God called them. Lots of them talked about how they didn’t want to be on the mission field, but they were miserable not following God. I assumed if you didn’t want to do missions, then God had called you. That was the last thing I wanted, which meant I had to do it. So I said God called me to be a missionary.

The other story is about my family. Mom and Dad had a name for each grandparent. For instance, my grandmother on Dad’s side was Granddad Thomas. On mother’s side, it was Granddad Cofer. My uncle was Eugene. I never saw his name, so as a child, I envisioned his name to be U.Gene because he was my uncle. It made sense to me that the U was a shortened form of Uncle. Once I grew up and heard the name Eugene, I realized my mistake.

Both of these stories show that children think differently when they are young. Realizing their developmental stage helps to understand how our children might get confused. My guest is Jann Martin, who holds a degree in Elementary Education.

 

You can learn more about Jann Martin here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Valentines Day Secrets: Love + Life Long Marriage

February 10, 2017

Valentines Day Secrets: Love + Life Long Marriage

Doesn’t everyone long for that perfect spouse that loves her forever? How can you achieve that?

There’s a huge interest in genealogical research today. People want to know their family tree, and they’ll go to great lengths to do that.  Because of the internet, more information of that kind is available. There are several online sites where you can find such information if you are willing to pay. Even in a sluggish economy, people opt in. Family is important, but broken relationships there can also be the more painful than any other. While friendships may not last, we often we don’t expect as much from our friends as we do family.

It’s interesting that while we long to know our family tree. Marrigaes are falling apart. The divorce rate is ridiciulous and many couples aren’t even getting married now. But let’s face it. From Genesis, Marriage forms the core of family. God preformed the first wedding ceremony. A man and a woman  had a child and that was the family.

We are nearing valentines day, and there’s talk of love. Because of this emotion, love,  people insist they must act as they feel. Red roses and chocolate candy can be found everywhere. Do those things constitute the kind of love that lasts? if not, then why?

Today I have Dianne Barker, and she has been married to the same man for fifty years. Presently she is writing a book about how to have a good marriage. She’s going to give us some tips.
2:00 Tell us the story of your marriage.

8:25 What were some of the differences you saw and how did you learn to accommodate?

11:47 Resolving Conflict

17:10 What if something he said hurt your feelings? What would you do?

21:45 How does your husband express love?

23:00 How did you come to understand how he expressed love?

26:10 Different temperament

Dianne Barker

Dianne Barker

 

Learn more about Dianne here.

 

 

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Parenting Guidance: Raising Disciples at Home with Melissa Spoelstra

January 20, 2017
Raising Disciples at Home

Parenting Guidance: Raising Disciples at Home

Dr. James Dobson wrote a book called, Parenting isn’t for Cowards.  What a true statement. What an incredible feeling to hold your first baby in your arms. It’s a miracle! You examine all the fingers and fingernails. And the sweet little feet. I was a registered nurse and I checked all their reflexes. Such an experience. I had five children and I found it overwhelming each time. But I also felt the weight of reasonability. You know that your choices will profoundly impact the baby’s future.

I took psychology classes as part of my nursing, and it was impossible not to notice how many things get blamed on parents. There’s so much to think about.

I can recall wanting the very best for each baby, but I was taken aback by how different each child was. With my first two children, I said I had opposites, and then as I kept having children, they were different too. How many opposites are there? They have different needs and respond differently to every situation. I was intensely aware that I needed godly guidance. I had a disabled child, and after all the experience I had, I needed the Lord’s help.

Deuteronomy 6:7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

What a command! That verse is enough to make you nervous.

Melissa Spoelstra wrote a book called T0tal Family Makeover, and she’s here to share with us.

Raise Disciples at Home

Melissa Spoelstra

 

 

 

For Melissa’s Website click here: http://melissaspoelstra.com/

 

 

 

 

2:40 You state your kids are NOT your report card. Explain.

5:55 How can you have spiritual conversations with your kids?

8:25 Explain the ‘question game.’

12:40 Questions about pain in the world.

13:40 Teaching the Bible

18:00 Teaching your child to serve.

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Cynthia Ruchti: Christmas and God’s Restoring Love

December 23, 2016
restoring Christmas

Cynthia Ruchti: Christmas and God’s Restoring Love

Psalm 51:12 Restore to me the joy of Thy salvation, And sustain me with a willing spirit.

  We celebrate Christmas because God came to earth as a baby to die for our sins. That’s a pretty huge event, very worth celebrating.For many people, it’s a painful time. You may have sustained a loss during the year or miss someone who died years ago.  We don’t often think about Christmas and restoration in the same sentence, but my guest, Cynthia Ruchti wrote a book, Restoring Christmas. What an interesting concept!  I looked up the word restore and found it occurred about seventy times. (depending on your translation, that may vary.)

After giving the matter some thought, I agree with Cynthia. Jesus came to earth to be our redeemer. He came to pay the price for our sins so we can have restored fellowship with God.  But what about all those other hurts we experience? Cynthia shares her heart on heartache during Christmas.

 

1:45 Share the basic story of the book

5:35 Did any event in your life prompt this story?

12:10 Talk about restoration for those hurting places.

19:50 Jesus is close to the broken-hearted. Share with people who may be there this year.

21:25 What about folks who are stumbling through Christmas with sadness or depression?

Restoring

Cynthia Ruchti

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Learn more about Cynthia here.

 

 

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Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess: Author Karen Whiting

December 16, 2016
Raising Young Modern Day Princess

Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess: Author Karen Whiting

How should a mother raise a ‘modern-day’ princess? That’s a good question. Being a woman today is more complicated than it should be. I don’t mind the women’s movement. After all, those early activists gave us the right to vote in 1920. However, a radical feminist movement has become part of our culture. Those women who lead the movement believe women live oppressed in a male-dominated world. Here are three of their stated goals. First, they want to take the masculine he/him out of our language, which has largely happened. Second, they want to refashion the role of women in society and the home. Third, they want to free women from childbearing through abortion and birth control.

As a result of this movement, many young women are confused about who and what they are. However, moms can have a significant impact on our children as we rear them according to Scripture. My guest today is Karen Whiting. She’s a best-selling author and mother of five. She has written the book, Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess.

2:10 What prompted you to write this book?

2:55 What are some ways a mother can teach her daughter to be a gracious lady?

4:10 How can you foster a teachable spirit?

5:00 It’s natural for mothers to find fault. How can we encourage toward excellence instead?

5:45 What are Mom tools?

7:40 Give us tips on how to get to know our child.

9:20 What if you have a melancholy child?

10:35 What should you do if one child has a birthday and another sibling, who is watching, becomes jealous?

11:35 Give us ways to infuse Scriptural principles into our girls?

15:00 What if your daughter refuses to talk?

15:59 Mothers do a lot. How can a busy mother find ways to climb into her daughter’s mind and personality?

17:25 Refusing extra jobs?

 

Modern day Princess

Karen Whiting

 

 

 

 

 

Learn more about Karen here.

Anger, Avoiding humdrum, Boundaries, Christmas holiday, Communication, Doing Family God's Way, Emotions, Family, Forgiveness, Guilt, Heart of the Matter, Love, Making choices, Parenting, People Pleaser, Responsiblity, Stress Reduction, Walking by Faith

Learn Ways to Handle Difficult Relatives that Make Christmas Miserable

December 9, 2016
Christmas

Get Along with Difficult Relatives at Christmas

Difficult relatives can make your Christmas miserable. Family can give us the most fulfillment when we actually connect with them, However, they can also cause the most heartache because we love them and long for their approval.  With the holidays coming, we all dread grumpy Uncle Bill or feisty Aunt Sally. Past hurts can also intensify the impact of uncomfortable encounters.

My father used to crack the same jokes every year and expect us to laugh. If I didn’t respond to his humor, he’d tease me about how my face looked, as if he thought I was holding in my response.

Mother would make a huge meal for Thanksgiving. I’d select certain foods, but not others, knowing I couldn’t eat it all. She would always point out what I missed, as if I overlooked that dish by accident. Plus she would attempt to get us all to eat more, even when we were full.

My grandmother would make snide comments with an innocent look on her face, and she’d do annoying things.  she favored boys over girls and she’d always make sure we knew how much she spent on the boys. If we asked her to do anything, she’d do the exact opposite.

Well, you know how it goes. Romans 12:18  says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”  Wow! That’s a hefty command.

Today I have two guests. The first is Angela Breidenbach. She’s a life coach and a terribly fun person. The second is Linda Rondeau. Both can give insight on this issue.

 

Learn more about Angela here.

Author and Speaker

Angela Breidenbach

3:10 Give us suggestions Angela.

4:00 Open ended questions

5:00 What can you do if your relative is unlikely to succumb to your charms?

7:00 How can we engage the elderly relatives?

7:50 Start  with good memories.

11:50 Ask questions about their stories

20:30 Use mad libs

20:55 How might coloring books help?

32:26 How do  secrets play into a difficult relationship?

34:00 Talk about forgiveness.

Learn more about Linda here.

Linda Rondeau

 

Bible, Christian History, Christmas, Christmas holiday, Church, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Educating your children, Encouragement, Family, Heart of the Matter, Parenting, Time

Karen Whiting: Christmas Advent – Teach Kids While They Wait

November 25, 2016
Karen Whiting

Karen Whiting: Christmas Advent – Teach Kids While They Wait

As a child, Christmas was a magical time for me. I loved the lights, the color, the carols, the excitement. I have lots of fond memories. At our church, combined choirs would do parts of Messiah every year. What a feast for the senses! Mother always made us wait for a tree because she liked real trees, and she worried about the tree drying out. It seemed like we were always the last to get a tree, but the big day would always arrive.  Once the tree was up, she’d let us decorate. She’d hand us icicles, which were long, thin and shiny. She expected us to hang the icicles one by one one. I found it much more exciting to toss them on the tree. They always landed in interesting shapes which reflected the lights so nicely. However, I can remember how Christmas took forever to arrive.  I remember talking about the eve of the eve of Christmas Eve, and then the eve of Christmas Eve.

The Christmas 2016  has arrived. The baby in the manger can easily be overlooked in our digital world. Parents must work to keep the focus on the true meaning of Christmas rather than the commercials and ads that catch the children’s attention. What a challenge! While we are busy preparing for the holiday, our children may grow restless since time passes slowly for them. Karen Whiting has written a book called Christmas is Coming, but Waiting is Hard.  She has lots of ideas to share.

1:25 What are some activities that can help kids focus while they wait?

2:55 Do you cover the history of Christmas?

4:15 Share some traditions of the past and their meanings.

5:10 What is the peace candle?

7:01 What does red have to do with Christmas?

7:30 How about green?

8:00 What about the Christmas stocking?

9:15 How can you keep the new gadget or toy from becoming the focus of Christmas?

Learn more about Karen here.

Waiting is Hard

Karen Whiting

Being a grandmother, Boundaries, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Emotions, Family, Goals, Heart of the Matter, Leaving a legacy, Love, Mothering, Parenting, Walking by Faith

Grandparenting: Be Phenomenal

October 15, 2016

Grandparenting: Be Phenomenal:

How can you be a phenomenal grandparent? A few months ago, I became a grandparent for the very first time. First, I saw my daughter in labor. What an experience. That wasn’t my favorite part of motherhood. Second, I gazed at this beautiful baby girl who is now part of my family, and I found it hard to express the emotions that washed over me. I recalled my own grandmother and my mother. Plus I thought of the day I had my first child.

I love that precious little girl with every cell in my body, but in many ways being a grandmother is different. Grandmothers aren’t mothers. We aren’t in the driver’s seat. Instead, we sit in the back seat. We don’t name the baby, nor do we make decisions about how the baby is raised.  While we still want the best for that child, we play a secondary role in the child’s life.

So how can you be a good grandmother? I think about the passage the Apostle Paul wrote to Timothy, “I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well.”

God does work in families. He is, after all, the originator of the family. He does want us to impact the next generation. I love the words of Dr. Mary Manz Simon, “We are life veterans. We bring wisdom, experience, and a clear sense of what’s important.”

Dr. Mary Manz Simon is my guest today and she has just written Faith Footprints with my Grandchild.

2:05 Why did you write this book?

3:10 As a grandmother, what have I left behind?

3:30 Is there a meaning behind the book title?

4:45 What are some worries grandmothers have?

5:45 The word grandmother sounds old-fashioned. How can we get past that?

6:55 How can you build a relationship with your grandchild?

 

Dr. Mary Simon

Dr. Mary Simon with Cynthia

 

Betrayal, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Crying out to God, Emotions, Encouragement, Family, Finding Meaning, Grief, Heart of the Matter, Hope, Marriage, Perseverance, Prayer, Stress Reduction, Time, Walking by Faith

Remaining Sane When Life Erupts

September 9, 2016

Remaining Sane When Life Erupts

I can recall when I was a child in class. We were getting ready to study the human body, and I was so excited to learn what my internal organs did. I had some strange idea that my organs did wonderful things for the world. How disappointing to discover they merely kept me alive. Of course, in adolescence, the question of identity rose.Those questions are important to ask because it’s difficult to live without meaning.On the other hand, it’s very easy to build our self-worth around what we do.

When I finished school, I became a nurse, but I gave up that career to raise five children. That made me really sad, but I’ve been giving up my whole life in some ways. Later I found myself as a young mother who nursed her babies, but that didn’t last either. I grieved that role when I weaned my youngest child. Then I saw myself as a homeschool mother. That job lasted longer, but that distinction disappeared also. Each time my job description changed, I felt pain and had to adjust. I had to rethink life as a child of God. Someone Jesus loved and died for, but that transition can be tough.

Sometimes life really falls apart. How can we pull the shreds of life back together? How can we get through those times of disappointment when we wonder who we are?

Cynthia Rutchti is my guest. She has written Song of Silence. In this novel, the main character loses her gifting and finds herself afloat.

4:30 The main character, Lucy, was giving to others from her gift of music. How can we find that sweet spot so we can bless those around us?

6:30 Lucy was based on a real person who ministered through music.

8:40 Music contains rests, and Lucy taught her students to ‘play the rests.’ How can we do that by using those hard times in life?

10:10 What if we resist that reset time?

11:20 What does a healthy identity look like? How can Christians get there?

13:50 How can we achieve a healthy marriage in later years like Lucy and her husband?

16:25 Lucy’s family did things to comfort her she didn’t like. How can we avoid facing that in a crisis?

19:00 Lucy’s doctor sent her to a club. What was that great idea about?

20:00 Explain the role of arts in education

23:20 What is the main message of the book?

Learn more about Cynthia Ruchti here.

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