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Attention Control Girls: Learning to Let Go!

June 2, 2017
Learning to Let Go

Attention Control Girls: Learning to Let Go!

Have you ever had a friend pull you off to the side and say, “Watch out for Emmaline. She’ll be telling you what to do if you aren’t careful.”?

No one likes a woman who has to run every event herself, and our kids really hate it once they are grown. At that point, they are ready to choose for themselves.

A couple years ago, my husband and I started ballroom dancing. We love it. However, I have learned things about myself. The man leads while dancing. His job is to move forward and make his way around the room, avoiding other dancers. When I am facing him, I can’t see where we are going.  I am so accustomed to getting things done that relaxing so he can lead is a real challenge. It takes real effort, but these dance lessons taught me how much I needed to be in control.

What a great spiritual lesson for all of us. Look at what the Psalmist says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. When you trust God, you must rest in him, knowing he can do what you cannot.

Today Shannon Popkin is my guest. She has just written the book, Control Girl.

Shannon’s bio;

I’m Shannon Popkin. I’m a wife and mom, a writer and speaker, a small group leader and Bible teacher. I’m so excited about my new book, Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible.,  which released in January 2017). With God’s help, I’m on a path that leads from Control Girl to Jesus Girl.
As a speaker, I love combining my love for humor and storytelling and with my passion for Jesus. I speak for ladies’ events, retreats, and moms groups. On my blog, I share stories from my life, which I hope will make you smile, and will encourage you to follow Jesus more closely. I also share posts from the other sites that I contribute to, including True Women.
Learn more here.
Control Girl

Shannon Popkin

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Mother’s Day: Mother Daughter Duo: Rhonda and Kaley Rhea Co-Authors

May 18, 2017

Mother’s Day: Mother and Daughter Duo: Rhonda and Kaley C0-Authors

As a little girl, I looked up to my mother. I can recall sitting on the couch beside her, her admiring her. She was pretty, smart, and was … a mother. I wanted to be like her. As I grew older and got into my teens, I began to feel like we didn’t communicate. We didn’t have a lot in common, or at least I thought so. There was a communication barrier there I failed to understand.

Now that she is gone, I understand her better because she wrote a lot, and I was able to get a peek inside her mind. And I know I’m a lot like her.

Mother’s Day receives mixed reviews. Some of you may have had great mothers, and you enjoy honoring her. Others had a difficult childhood and may try not to repeat the mistakes your mother made. I remember Mother’s day as painful after I lost my mother. Plus those of you with difficult children may find this season painful.

My heart goes out to all of you who might be hurting.

Today I’d like to give young mothers some guidance on doing well, overcoming obstacles and feeling confident in this important job.

I’m reminded of what Paul said to I Timothy: He obviously believed Timothy’s mother and grandmother impacted his life. “For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother, Lois, and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well.”

My guests are Rhonda Rhea and her daughter Kaley. They are the authors of Turtles in the Road, an inspirational humorous romance that’s just releasing. They are both TV personalities for Christian Television Network’s KNLJ in mid-Missouri. Rhonda is also a nationally-known speaker, humor columnist and author of 11 other books, including Fix-Her-Upper, a soon-releasing nonfiction project coauthored with Beth Duewel. Rhonda is married to her pastor/husband, Richie Rhea, and they have five grown children. Kaley works at Missouri Baptist University and she and Rhonda both live in the St. Louis area.

Learn more about Rhonda and Kaley here.

Rhonda and Kaley

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Keeping Life in Balance with Laurie Boulden

March 31, 2017
Keeping life in balance

Keeping Life in Balance:

Ladies, God cares about the choices we make because they impact our lives as well as others.

 

I appreciate the writings of Francis Schaeffer who is now with the Lord. He pointed out that there is no distinction between sacred and spiritual. All of life, minus sin, is lived out before the eyes of the Lord.  He wants us to live in this physical world with integrity in our personal lives as well as our spiritual lives. Because they overlap.

 

We have a tendency to think that brushing our teeth or exercise is not a godly action. Well, it is. Cause you are caring for the body that belongs to God. I used to think changing diapers did not seem particularly spiritual. But ladies, it is. You are caring for a child, and that is all part of raising that baby with love and graciousness.

 

We need to live a balanced life where we keep the important things important and focus on eternityLet’s talk about the fruit of the spirit: That is if you are walking with the Holy Spirit’s guidance, your life will have these qualities.

Galatians 5:22 – 23But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Did you hear self-control? That includes not blowing up in anger, but it also includes good diet and good sleep habits.

Laurie Boulden is my guest today. She has just written the book Weighed Down. The main character learns balance in her life.

4:50 Does any woman think she’s attractive?

7:05 Share how to manage a good diet.

8:25 How can planning help?

10:25 Having realistic expectations

11:25 How can exercise help?

13:00 Share ways to stay spiritually balanced.

14:55 Proverbs 31 lady

15:45 Discuss how prayer impacts our balance

Learn about Laurie Boulden here.

Laurie Boulden

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Marlo Schalesky:Finding Peace While Waiting On God

March 24, 2017

Finding Peace While You Wait On God:

If you are like me, you like to get results. I set goals for the day and take great pleasure in checking off my list. When we turn to  God with our prayers, we tend to expect the same thing. How frustrating.  We know from scripture God wants us to pray and to bring him our needs and petitions. Here’s a quote from Matthew 7:7 1a“Ask, and bit shall be given to you; 2seek, and you shall find; 3knock, and it shall be opened to you.

When you read that, you see God’s promise to answer and you expect him to. As Americans, we’d see it like placing an online order. We type in what we want and set up delivery. However, God doesn’t always work like we think he should.  I can recall praying for my parents to get carpet downstairs in their living room. At the time, they had hardwood, which we value more highly now. But they wanted carpet.  I saw no way God could answer that, but they worked in a church

Let me tell you a story. I can recall praying for my parents to get carpet downstairs in their living room. At the time, they had hardwood, which we value more highly now. But they wanted carpet.  I saw no way God could answer that, but they worked in a church ministry and won a contest. Someone had donated carpet to the winner. So God answered my prayer. My parents were impressed and told me to keep praying.

However, many times I have prayed don’t get an answer. Or at least you think that’s true cause lots of time passes. Nothing happens.

So what is God doing?  And why did he make such an open and shut promise like that one I read?

You can read about people in the Bible who prayed like Hannah prayed for a son, but God did NOT have promises at that time.

Today we have the promise that whatever happens, God will turn it into something for our good.

Perhaps your problem isn’t about prayer. You are in transition much longer than you think you should be. Why does God make us wait?

Today my guest is Marlo Shalesky. She wrote Waiting for Wonder. The book is about Sarah and Abraham waiting for a child.

2:10 Why did you write a book on this topic?

3:00 How was Sarah supposed to know she did the wrong thing? Her choice was okay in her culture.

8:00 You say we pray too small. Explain that.

9:00 Isn’t it possible we will see the outcome of our prayers in eternity?

Find Marlo here.

Marlo Schalesky

 

 

 

Anger, Bible, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Divorce, Emotions, Family, Fellowship with believers, Fighting in Marriage, Forgiveness, Guilt, Heart of the Matter, Keeping our focus, Love, Making choices, Male Temperment, Marriage

Valentines Day Secrets: Love + Life Long Marriage

February 10, 2017

Valentines Day Secrets: Love + Life Long Marriage

Doesn’t everyone long for that perfect spouse that loves her forever? How can you achieve that?

There’s a huge interest in genealogical research today. People want to know their family tree, and they’ll go to great lengths to do that.  Because of the internet, more information of that kind is available. There are several online sites where you can find such information if you are willing to pay. Even in a sluggish economy, people opt in. Family is important, but broken relationships there can also be the more painful than any other. While friendships may not last, we often we don’t expect as much from our friends as we do family.

It’s interesting that while we long to know our family tree. Marrigaes are falling apart. The divorce rate is ridiciulous and many couples aren’t even getting married now. But let’s face it. From Genesis, Marriage forms the core of family. God preformed the first wedding ceremony. A man and a woman  had a child and that was the family.

We are nearing valentines day, and there’s talk of love. Because of this emotion, love,  people insist they must act as they feel. Red roses and chocolate candy can be found everywhere. Do those things constitute the kind of love that lasts? if not, then why?

Today I have Dianne Barker, and she has been married to the same man for fifty years. Presently she is writing a book about how to have a good marriage. She’s going to give us some tips.
2:00 Tell us the story of your marriage.

8:25 What were some of the differences you saw and how did you learn to accommodate?

11:47 Resolving Conflict

17:10 What if something he said hurt your feelings? What would you do?

21:45 How does your husband express love?

23:00 How did you come to understand how he expressed love?

26:10 Different temperament

Dianne Barker

Dianne Barker

 

Learn more about Dianne here.

 

 

Anger, Avoiding humdrum, Boundaries, Christmas holiday, Communication, Doing Family God's Way, Emotions, Family, Forgiveness, Guilt, Heart of the Matter, Love, Making choices, Parenting, People Pleaser, Responsiblity, Stress Reduction, Walking by Faith

Learn Ways to Handle Difficult Relatives that Make Christmas Miserable

December 9, 2016
Christmas

Get Along with Difficult Relatives at Christmas

Difficult relatives can make your Christmas miserable. Family can give us the most fulfillment when we actually connect with them, However, they can also cause the most heartache because we love them and long for their approval.  With the holidays coming, we all dread grumpy Uncle Bill or feisty Aunt Sally. Past hurts can also intensify the impact of uncomfortable encounters.

My father used to crack the same jokes every year and expect us to laugh. If I didn’t respond to his humor, he’d tease me about how my face looked, as if he thought I was holding in my response.

Mother would make a huge meal for Thanksgiving. I’d select certain foods, but not others, knowing I couldn’t eat it all. She would always point out what I missed, as if I overlooked that dish by accident. Plus she would attempt to get us all to eat more, even when we were full.

My grandmother would make snide comments with an innocent look on her face, and she’d do annoying things.  she favored boys over girls and she’d always make sure we knew how much she spent on the boys. If we asked her to do anything, she’d do the exact opposite.

Well, you know how it goes. Romans 12:18  says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”  Wow! That’s a hefty command.

Today I have two guests. The first is Angela Breidenbach. She’s a life coach and a terribly fun person. The second is Linda Rondeau. Both can give insight on this issue.

 

Learn more about Angela here.

Author and Speaker

Angela Breidenbach

3:10 Give us suggestions Angela.

4:00 Open ended questions

5:00 What can you do if your relative is unlikely to succumb to your charms?

7:00 How can we engage the elderly relatives?

7:50 Start  with good memories.

11:50 Ask questions about their stories

20:30 Use mad libs

20:55 How might coloring books help?

32:26 How do  secrets play into a difficult relationship?

34:00 Talk about forgiveness.

Learn more about Linda here.

Linda Rondeau

 

Abuse of Authority, Anger, Authority of Scripture, Bible, Bible Study, Commitment to Christ, Dreams, Encouragement, Freedom, Heart of the Matter, Hope, Ministry using your gift, Rights, Standing for your faith, Truth, Understand our culture, Walking by Faith, Worry

Worried About the Future? Christians Know the End of the Story

November 4, 2016
Revelation on Fire

Worried About the Future?

It’s really easy to worry about the future, but Christians know the end of the story. Several years ago on a Saturday morning, my husband slid into the floor and had a grand mal seizure. Wow! What a catastrophic event. In an adult, a seizure is a medical emergency.  We suddenly went from normal living to crisis mode. A sense of unreality came over me as I discovered my husband’s illness was very serious.  For the first few days, I stood by his bed and watched as doctors tried to treat his complex problem. Ultimately his full recovery took four years, and those years unsettled us all. In the same way, we live in a rapidly changing world. Events come at us so fast. These unbelievable events seemed impossible a few years ago. If anyone disagrees or questions, that person receives a nasty label. Intolerant. Bigot. Hater. I keep reminding myself that I live in America where we are supposed to have freedom of religion and freedom of speech. Many in the church are rattled and frightened. This election season had passed in a similar fashion. Americans are angry because no one listens to them in Washington.

I cannot imagine facing any of this without God. During that time when my husband was ill, the Lord sent me to the book of Daniel while I taught a class. There the Lord revealed that Daniel’s greatest dream was for his people to return to the land with a restored relationship with the father. However, God knew that wouldn’t happen in Daniel’s lifetime, so God allowed Daniel a peek into the future. Daniels greatest longing would come true, but not while he lived.

As Christians, we don’t wield control, but we can be assured that God does. The book of Revelation reveals God’s plan for the future, and we can be confident, regardless of what we see going on. God will accomplish his purpose.

My guest is Dr. Ken J. Burge, Sr. He has written Revelation on Fire a Bible study on the last book of the Bible.

2:15 Not everyone in the church believes like you do about the future. Can you give reasons why hold your position on future things?

5:00 Describe your Bible study method

9:15 Revelation said these things will ‘shortly take place.” That was written over 2000 years ago. What does that phrase mean?

11:00 What does the text mean when it says people will be blessed seven times?

12:00 Can you give reasons why you believe in the rapture of the church?

14:00 Who were the people in chapter 3 who are praising the lamb for redemption?

Learn more about Dr. Burge here.  Find his book here.

Revelation on Fire

Ken Burge

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Fight with your Spouse and Grow Together

September 2, 2016
Fight or not to fight

Fight with your Spouse and Grow Together

Someone actually advocates fighting? Wow. You’ll love their answers.

“The wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable.” James 3:17

When you got married, you probably had stars in your eyes and romance in your heart. Many of us didn’t think much about the happily ever after part, but I grew up thinking peaceable meant hardly any conflict. Here’s a story about that.

We’ve all heard of the Victorian Age, and you probably have bad feelings about that time period. Well, Queen Victoria and her husband Albert were believers. That might surprise you, but they deliberately chose to set an example for the nation.

Victoria grew up in a home without a father. Her English father died when she was an infant, and her mother wasn’t particularly wise about getting along with people. Because her mother hoped to be regent when her daughter ascended the throne.

Victoria thought that no conflict was the goal in marriage. And she was queen. So when she married the man she loved, Prince Albert, she was in charge. And she gave him nothing to do. Plus the British constitution had no role for the prince consort. Well, it wasn’t long before Albert was quite frustrated.

The good news is that Albert was a strong believer, and he set a goal of ministering to his wife/family and the people of Britain. Their beginning was rocky. Victoria would get upset and scream. She was famed for her temper, but he was gentle and firm.

Not authentic, but it represents what actually went on. There’s a story told about Albert locking himself into a room. When she knocked he would ask who is there. If she said the queen. He wouldn’t allow her in. After a couple of years, he was able to convince her he had a better way. And together they built an incredible marriage which was the envy of Europe.

My guests today are Ron and Deb DeArmond. They wrote the book, Don’t Go to Bed Angry.

3:04 What gave rise to the book?

3:42 Leaving your baggage

4:35 Arguments in the DeArmond house

5:10 Their parameters

5:40 How to set parameters

6:40 Recovery from a heated discussion

8:20 Listening actively

9:00 Knowing how you process information is key

12:00 How to ‘table’ an intense discussion

Anger, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Emotions, Heart of the Matter, Love, Making choices, Muslim, Safety

Love Your Muslim Neighbor

July 23, 2016
Love Your Muslim Neighbor

Love Your Muslim Neighbor – Wow! How can we do that?

Many today are wary of Muslims.I don’t know about you, but  I feel a little uncomfortable around them. You can  justify being uneasy  based on the many attacks around the world. Recently we received evidence an Islamic terrorist carried out the shooting in Orlando and the terrorist attack in Nice, France. In fact, many of us have been uncomfortable since 9/11 when terrorist attacked the twin towers. Add to that the horrors of Isis. We keep seeing heart-rending videos of them slaughtering those Christians and burning anyone who disagrees. Fear doesn’t seem unreasonable, and I too struggle with being afraid.

But God calls us not to fear: Matthew 10:28  “And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.” Those words might be easy to say and hard to do, but we must remember believers have eternal life. We are blessed with riches beyond what we can imagine, and we are called to love those for whom Christ died.  Luke 6:27 “But I (Jesus) say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.”

Last fall I heard Nabeel Qureshi speak about his Muslim upbringing, and I read his book, Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus. His story  revolutionized my view of Muslims. Most of them are nonviolent and hate what they see in the news. I found myself softening toward them and wanting to reach out. How can we make friends with them?

Today I have Ken Philpot with me. He’s a pastor in California, and he has reached out to Muslims in his area. He’s written a book called If Allah Wills. 1:10 What happens if you ask to visit their mosque?

1:10 What happens if you ask to visit their mosque?

1:10 What happens if you ask to visit their mosque?

1:30 Different kinds of Muslims

2:20 Go to Friday Prayers, and open time

3:10 Muslim attitude toward women

4:20 Could a lady visit a Muslim Mosque?

5:20 The Muslim handshake

5:50 A couple reaching out to Muslims

7:35 Cultures who have guilt, versus honor

8:45 Shame on the family in the Muslim culture

9:40 Muslim family vs the clan

10:10 What we can learn from them

11:00 Muslim religion is outward

12:15 Muslim fears

12:40 Two ways Muslims go to heaven

13:20 Contrast Christianity

14:15 Second Muslim fear

15:30 The Apostate

16:30 Dominate motivator

Love Your Muslim Neighbor

Ken Philpot

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You can find Pastor Philpot’s book  here.

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Healthy Grief Processing

July 1, 2016
Carol McLeod

Healthy Grief Processing – Carol McLeod is my guest today. She’s an expert on grief processing after losing five babies.

Nobody wants grief. Truly! Like many of you, I grew up in America. All my life I expected good things. WE had the freedom to pursue whatever career we wanted, and I had dreams of being gloriously happy. On the other hand, the church taught we would face heartache. I heard that, but I’m not sure I really believed. My husband was the same way. He even commented how he was tired of singing about the ‘Sweet Bye and Bye’ while ignoring the ‘nasty now and now.’

However, the longer you life, you see heartache and sorrow. I can say now the Lord has walked me through some grueling times, things we never dreamed we’d face. Now I sense the brokenness of our world. It’s shocking the intensity of the pain we see. God designed us to live in a perfect work, and we ache when we see tragedy.

My husband calls Romans chapter eight ‘Groaning 101.’ “For we know what they whole creation groans and suffers the pains of childbirth until now. Woe! you talk about childbirth, and we ladies can relate. That’s serious pain. And yes, that’s our world.

But the Apostle Paul wasn’t finished. “For I consider the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed.” (Romans 8:18) That’s a pretty huge contrast. The sufferings, however hefty they may be, can’t outweigh the glory we will have. What a statement. We all need that hope.

Here’s a guide to topics you might enjoy in the interview:

How to be attuned to God: 2:20

J0y Defined: 3:50

Healthy Grief: 6:5

Process your grief: 7 :25

David’s Grief: 8:5 Seconds

Broken Heart: 6:40 Seconds

Carol’s addiction: 13:45 Seconds

Life in Layers: 11:32 Seconds

Listen to Carol McLeod below:

Speaker, Bible teacher

Carol McLeod

You can pre-order Carol’s book here.

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