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Overcome Abuse: Rewriting Emotional Script

February 4, 2017
Rewrite your emotional Script

Overcome Abuse: Rewriting Emotional Script

You can overcome abuse, and we are going to talk about how that’s done.

The mind is incredible. God designed us so we can access our memories and relive events. As we do that the emotions wash over us again as if it was happening in that moment.  In fact, that’s one reason Worry is bad for us because we imagine something bad happening and our bodies respond as if it did happen. All the negative chemicals start flowing through our bodies. Those bad chemicals can make us ill.

Ladies, If you’ve lived very long, you’ve been through heartrending stuff, you’ll have baggage. Stuff from the past that weighs you down and impacts your actions and even reactions.  What can we do about that?

2 Cor. 10 5 says, “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,”

Today we are going to talk about how you can implement that verse and how Scripture can help you heal:

I have Becky Harling with me, and she wrote, Rewriting Your Emotional Script

2:25 Why pray Scripture? Isn’t that magical thinking?

3:12 How can God heal you with the Word?

4:00 How can we be ‘poor in spirit’?

5:30  We need God.

6:45 How is letting go different from being a victim

7:50 Why would God make you wait?

10:25 God suffers too. Is that correct?

11:40 Hard times make you grow.

Learn more about Becky here.

Becky Harling

 

 

 

 

 

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Overcome Fears Holding You Back: Realize Your Full Potential

February 1, 2017
Realize Your Potential

Overcome Fears Holding You Back: Realize Your Full Potential

You are a special creation with a unique gift to share. Don’t allow fears to hold you back:

We live in a consumer-driven society, and it’s very easy for us to see the church as something that serves us. We already have our hardware store, our grocery store or maybe a farmer’s market, an appliance store, a place we buy clothes. We decide what we might need and go looking for that. Unfortunately, we approach a church exactly like that.

 

I’m going to turn that on its head because I firmly believe that every Christian should have a ministry.  God speaks of us as a holy nation, a royal priesthood for his own possession. Yes, we should attend a church that has a great doctrinal stance, but its a place we can reach out to others.

 

Romans 12:3 For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function,

 

Did you notice that God doesn’t want us to get proud or self-centered? Instead, he wants us to focus on what we can give to the body.He gave every believer a spiritual gift and God wants us to use that right where we are. We are an essential part of the church body as a whole. We aren’t the whole body, but if we don’t function, the body would be handicapped, just like you’d be if you lost an eye or a foot. Your gift is essential and brings a needed skill to the body of Christ that only you can give. What a great prescription for emotional health. Valuable but not the most important!

Cynthia Cavanaugh wrote Unlocked: 5 Myths Holding Your Influence Captive. She’s going to share how we can find our ministry.

2:00 What are you trying to address in this book?

3:20 How did Rahab manage to lead from a place of uncertainty?

6:20 How can we overcome brokenness?

9:20 Share about being authentic.

Visit Cynthia’s website here.

Reach Your Potential

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Parenting Guidance: Raising Disciples at Home with Melissa Spoelstra

January 20, 2017
Raising Disciples at Home

Parenting Guidance: Raising Disciples at Home

Dr. James Dobson wrote a book called, Parenting isn’t for Cowards.  What a true statement. What an incredible feeling to hold your first baby in your arms. It’s a miracle! You examine all the fingers and fingernails. And the sweet little feet. I was a registered nurse and I checked all their reflexes. Such an experience. I had five children and I found it overwhelming each time. But I also felt the weight of reasonability. You know that your choices will profoundly impact the baby’s future.

I took psychology classes as part of my nursing, and it was impossible not to notice how many things get blamed on parents. There’s so much to think about.

I can recall wanting the very best for each baby, but I was taken aback by how different each child was. With my first two children, I said I had opposites, and then as I kept having children, they were different too. How many opposites are there? They have different needs and respond differently to every situation. I was intensely aware that I needed godly guidance. I had a disabled child, and after all the experience I had, I needed the Lord’s help.

Deuteronomy 6:7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

What a command! That verse is enough to make you nervous.

Melissa Spoelstra wrote a book called T0tal Family Makeover, and she’s here to share with us.

Raise Disciples at Home

Melissa Spoelstra

 

 

 

For Melissa’s Website click here: http://melissaspoelstra.com/

 

 

 

 

2:40 You state your kids are NOT your report card. Explain.

5:55 How can you have spiritual conversations with your kids?

8:25 Explain the ‘question game.’

12:40 Questions about pain in the world.

13:40 Teaching the Bible

18:00 Teaching your child to serve.

Boundaries, Communication, Doing Family God's Way, Educating your children, Emotions, Encouragement, Goals, Grief, Heart of the Matter, Keeping our focus, Mothering, Parenting, Prayer, Responsiblity, Surrender to Christ, Trust

Praying for Your Child While He’s Away

January 13, 2017
Edie Melson

Praying for Your Child While He’ Away

God make mothers to be nurturers. He wove that desire into our design. In fact, I still want to mother even though my kids are grown, so I use my mothering instincts on my cats.

There’s a story in 2 Kings four about the Shunammite woman. She noticed the prophet Elisha walking past her house, and she chose to help him. Her husband built a room for the prophet so he’d have a place to stay when he passed through town. Elisha was grateful, so he asked what he could do for her. She didn’t give him ideas, but Elisha’s servant pointed out that she had no children. So Elisha prayed for her to have a child.

After the boy’s birth, he went out into the fields where his father was working and became ill. He fell to the ground screaming, “Oh, my head!”

The father immediately ordered his servants to take the child to his mother. His mother held him until noon that day, and then he died. The mom went to find the prophet who raised him from the dead.

Let’s focus on that one phrase, the father said the moment he knew his son was ill “Take him to his mother.” That describes us. (of course, there are exceptions). We care for our children and will move all sorts of obstacles to make life work for them. However, we must learn to let our children go and face life on their own. It’s a tough assignment for us.

Today, my guest is Edie Melson. She had a son who became a soldier and went on active duty to fight. How scary. She wrote the book, While My Child is Away. She will give some tips on mothering that child who is leaving the nest.

2:10 What is the Headless Horseman of Faith?

3:30 How can we as mothers listen to our emotions and yet use them appropriately?

5:24 What about those times we fear failing as a parent?

6:45 Tell us the frog story? What does it teach us?

9:00 Share about loving the people your kids are with.

10:30 You had a son in the military, and you know about the ‘what ifs.’ How can we handle those?

13:00 Leaving the child with the Lord:

14:05 How can you avoid the trap of allowing your kid’s choices to define you?

16:10 What about the stuff that hurts?

Edie Melson

Edie Melson

 

 

 

 

 

Learn more about Edie here.

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2017 Resolution: Get Healthy: Body, Soul, Spirit

January 6, 2017
2017 Resolution

2017 Resolution: Get Healthy: Body, Soul, Spirit

I’ve always hated exercise. Water makes my hair look funny, and sweating is water. I’d rather read a book. In gym class, I always stood in the back of class cause I was so uncomfortable. When they taught us tumbling, the teacher told us we could break our necks if we did it wrong. That was it, I froze up and couldn’t do any of it right.

When I was a girl in elementary school, a doctor scolded me for being overweight. That totally caught me by surprise because no one had said a thing. Mom never complained.

Right out of high school, I studied nursing and became an RN so I understood the important of exercise and diet and exercise. But there’s also a spiritual component here. 1 Corinthians 6:19 to 20 says,  “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” As believers, we should take care of the body God gave us. That’s where the Holy Spirit lives.

I guess you can say I grew into exercise and watching my diet. Not that it’s easy, but I try to think of it as a lifestyle.

 

Michelle Medlock Adams is my guest. She teaches exercise classes and wrote Love and Care for the One and Only You.  A new version is coming out with recipes in the back.

2:30  What effect does TV have on how we see ourselves?

4:50 How can diet become a lifestyle?

7:40  How can we learn to drink water?

10:00 Rewarding yourself and easing into better habits

11:40 How can we avoid perfectionistic attitudes about food?

13:00 Stay on a diet at a birthday party?

15:30 Not everyone has an hour-glass shaped figure

19:00 Exercise can be worshipful

21:50 Exercise helps mood

Get to know more about Michelle here.

Author

Michelle Medlock Adams

 

 

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Prepare for the New Year: Make Your Life Count For God!

December 30, 2016
Make Your Life Count

Prepare for the New Year: Make Your Life Count For God:

Have you ever thought about the end of your life? When you look back over all you’ve done, how will you view your choices? After I married, my husband talked about that a lot. At first, it seemed grim. After all, we were in our twenties. Over time, however, I changed my mind.  Psalm 92 says, “Teach us to number our days that we may have a heart of wisdom.” Such good advice!

As we enter a new year, this is a great time to consider our purpose in life. Consider  Romans 12:3: “For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.”

This verse commands us to have sober judgment, which means to think clearly about ourselves. I find it easy to be self-centered and to feel as if life revolves around me, but that’s not true. In fact, this passage tells us to acknowledge the measure of faith God has given us. If you keep reading Romans 12, you’ll discover Paul moves into spiritual gifts. He describes the church as a body and individuals as members. When you come to Christ, He gives you a spiritual gift. That’s the measure of faith Paul speaks of. When you think correctly, you realize your value in relationship to the rest of the body of Christ. The head needs the hands to do its bidding and feet for movement and balance. The body of Christ doesn’t have useless parts.  You have a special gifting for your time that no one else can fill like you can. You aren’t the whole body, but a valuable part of the whole. (What a great recipe for self-esteem: doing God’s will.)

So how do you find your purpose, your gifting? Poppy Smith is my guest. She wrote: Go For It! Make Your Life Count For God. She helps women uncover their gifts and live up to their potential.

3:00 How can we live on purpose?

5:00 How does God prepare us to be used?

7:05 His shaping.

7:40 How can we learn what we are best suited for?

Learn more about Poppy Smith here.

Go For It

Poppy Smith

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Cynthia Ruchti: Christmas and God’s Restoring Love

December 23, 2016
restoring Christmas

Cynthia Ruchti: Christmas and God’s Restoring Love

Psalm 51:12 Restore to me the joy of Thy salvation, And sustain me with a willing spirit.

  We celebrate Christmas because God came to earth as a baby to die for our sins. That’s a pretty huge event, very worth celebrating.For many people, it’s a painful time. You may have sustained a loss during the year or miss someone who died years ago.  We don’t often think about Christmas and restoration in the same sentence, but my guest, Cynthia Ruchti wrote a book, Restoring Christmas. What an interesting concept!  I looked up the word restore and found it occurred about seventy times. (depending on your translation, that may vary.)

After giving the matter some thought, I agree with Cynthia. Jesus came to earth to be our redeemer. He came to pay the price for our sins so we can have restored fellowship with God.  But what about all those other hurts we experience? Cynthia shares her heart on heartache during Christmas.

 

1:45 Share the basic story of the book

5:35 Did any event in your life prompt this story?

12:10 Talk about restoration for those hurting places.

19:50 Jesus is close to the broken-hearted. Share with people who may be there this year.

21:25 What about folks who are stumbling through Christmas with sadness or depression?

Restoring

Cynthia Ruchti

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Learn more about Cynthia here.

 

 

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Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess: Author Karen Whiting

December 16, 2016
Raising Young Modern Day Princess

Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess: Author Karen Whiting

How should a mother raise a ‘modern-day’ princess? That’s a good question. Being a woman today is more complicated than it should be. I don’t mind the women’s movement. After all, those early activists gave us the right to vote in 1920. However, a radical feminist movement has become part of our culture. Those women who lead the movement believe women live oppressed in a male-dominated world. Here are three of their stated goals. First, they want to take the masculine he/him out of our language, which has largely happened. Second, they want to refashion the role of women in society and the home. Third, they want to free women from childbearing through abortion and birth control.

As a result of this movement, many young women are confused about who and what they are. However, moms can have a significant impact on our children as we rear them according to Scripture. My guest today is Karen Whiting. She’s a best-selling author and mother of five. She has written the book, Raising a Young Modern-Day Princess.

2:10 What prompted you to write this book?

2:55 What are some ways a mother can teach her daughter to be a gracious lady?

4:10 How can you foster a teachable spirit?

5:00 It’s natural for mothers to find fault. How can we encourage toward excellence instead?

5:45 What are Mom tools?

7:40 Give us tips on how to get to know our child.

9:20 What if you have a melancholy child?

10:35 What should you do if one child has a birthday and another sibling, who is watching, becomes jealous?

11:35 Give us ways to infuse Scriptural principles into our girls?

15:00 What if your daughter refuses to talk?

15:59 Mothers do a lot. How can a busy mother find ways to climb into her daughter’s mind and personality?

17:25 Refusing extra jobs?

 

Modern day Princess

Karen Whiting

 

 

 

 

 

Learn more about Karen here.

Anger, Avoiding humdrum, Boundaries, Christmas holiday, Communication, Doing Family God's Way, Emotions, Family, Forgiveness, Guilt, Heart of the Matter, Love, Making choices, Parenting, People Pleaser, Responsiblity, Stress Reduction, Walking by Faith

Learn Ways to Handle Difficult Relatives that Make Christmas Miserable

December 9, 2016
Christmas

Get Along with Difficult Relatives at Christmas

Difficult relatives can make your Christmas miserable. Family can give us the most fulfillment when we actually connect with them, However, they can also cause the most heartache because we love them and long for their approval.  With the holidays coming, we all dread grumpy Uncle Bill or feisty Aunt Sally. Past hurts can also intensify the impact of uncomfortable encounters.

My father used to crack the same jokes every year and expect us to laugh. If I didn’t respond to his humor, he’d tease me about how my face looked, as if he thought I was holding in my response.

Mother would make a huge meal for Thanksgiving. I’d select certain foods, but not others, knowing I couldn’t eat it all. She would always point out what I missed, as if I overlooked that dish by accident. Plus she would attempt to get us all to eat more, even when we were full.

My grandmother would make snide comments with an innocent look on her face, and she’d do annoying things.  she favored boys over girls and she’d always make sure we knew how much she spent on the boys. If we asked her to do anything, she’d do the exact opposite.

Well, you know how it goes. Romans 12:18  says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”  Wow! That’s a hefty command.

Today I have two guests. The first is Angela Breidenbach. She’s a life coach and a terribly fun person. The second is Linda Rondeau. Both can give insight on this issue.

 

Learn more about Angela here.

Author and Speaker

Angela Breidenbach

3:10 Give us suggestions Angela.

4:00 Open ended questions

5:00 What can you do if your relative is unlikely to succumb to your charms?

7:00 How can we engage the elderly relatives?

7:50 Start  with good memories.

11:50 Ask questions about their stories

20:30 Use mad libs

20:55 How might coloring books help?

32:26 How do  secrets play into a difficult relationship?

34:00 Talk about forgiveness.

Learn more about Linda here.

Linda Rondeau

 

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Christmas Meditations: Words to Live by: Author Linda Gilden

December 4, 2016
Words to Live By
Linda Gilden

Linda Gilden

Christmas Meditations with Author Linda Gilden

Have you ever looked up the phrase Christmas rush?  I just did that. I saw pictures of people buried in lights that didn’t work, or under a pile of packages. One picture had Santa Claus pointing to a clock.  Another showed a distressed lady surrounded by piles of bows and ribbons. The one I liked the best was shoppers pushing carts heaped with gifts. One lady in the foreground is trying to hold a package in place as she hurried to the register. Shopping can be a huge distraction for me this time of year. After all, we are celebrating the birth of Christ. Right after Jesus arrival here as a baby, God saw fit to send an angel chorus to earth to sing:

Luke 2:14 “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!”

Without a doubt, this his message of peace was pretty important. God didn’t send angel choruses often in history. He was announcing hope for our broken world, yet sometimes I get forget and still get caught up in the craziness of the holiday. How can we keep our focus and not get obliterated by the holiday?

 

Author Linda Gilden shares thoughts from her newest book and meditations from her newest book, Words to Live By. 

Learn more about Linda here.

1:40 Discuss the word joyful.

3:45 How can we continue to rejoice despite the horrors going on around us?

6:05 Abide is often mentioned in John 15. Discuss how that word can impact our thoughts.

7:50 Romans 1 discusses how serious it can be to stop being thankful. Share how thankfulness can permeate our lives.

9:05 Things around us don’t last. How can we keep our focus on the eternal?

11:35 Share about a servant mindset

13:50 How can we celebrate Christ’s birth appropriately?

 

 

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