Love Your Mother-in-Law/Daughter-in-Law

September 22, 2017

My mother told a story about my grandmother, her mother-in-law, that I’ve never forgotten. She said my brother was about nine months old. She had placed him in a bouncy chair that hung in the kitchen doorway when my grandparents came to visit.  Granny got up in my brother’s face and bellowed. Of course, a sudden sound will scare a baby, and so my brother cried.

Granny huffed. “My own grandson doesn’t know me. ” And she ran out to the car where she sat the rest there while my grandfather stayed and chatted.

The relationship of the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law can be unpleasant. However, God tells us to love our neighbor as he loved them. And he gave his life for the sins of the world. What is the answer to this dilemma?

Deb DeArmond is my guest today from her newest book, Related by Chance, Family by Choice.

Learn more about Deb here.


History Shows the Impact of Your Choices

September 15, 2017

What do you really love doing?

Let me take that a step further? What would you do if nobody was looking and you could do whatever? And it wouldn’t matter because no one would ever know?

I would immerse myself in mystery/ thriller books and drink tea. It’s even better if it’s storming outside. Or I would shop for hours.

That’s what I do when I take time off when I want to rest. I KNOW I can’t read all the time.

Have you ever heard anyone say, this is my life, and I’m going to do what I want? When someone says that, I think about that question. What would you do if no one was looking and it would not change anything?
Yes. God gave us the right to choose. He gave us free will, but we experience the consequences of those choices. So do others around us.

“Don’t be deceived, whatever a man sows that he will also reap.”

If you think back to the early passages in Genesis, God gave us work to do BEFORE the fall. And the things we do or don’t do impact us and others around us.

Today I have Rebecca Price Janney. She has written Easton at the Forks.

Learn more about Rebecca here.


Stay Connected with Your Spouse

September 8, 2017

Do you recall when you got engaged? I have fond memories of those times. My future husband and I wanted to be together all the time and would talk for hours. Those newlywed years were wonderful too. We lived in an apartment and didn’t have a house or yard that needed care. What fun we had getting to know each other. I’d have to use the word ‘blissful’ to describe those days.

Marriage should be pleasant because God intended it to be a  picture of the relationship between Christ and the church.

Then we had kids and life got busy. The job of getting our kids to ballet or karate took the place of our long chats. How easy for us to get disconnected. Communication stops and sometimes you feel like you don’t know your spouse anymore.

Husband and wife are very different. We are opposites that mesh together, but we respond differently to stress, emotions, and everyday life.

Cynthia Ruchti is with me today. She has written A Fragile Hope about a man and wife who experience that disconnect. However, Cynthia also shared ways to keep in touch.

Learn more about Cynthia here and here.



Coping with Stress and Trauma

September 1, 2017

Do you struggle with stress? Maybe you have suffered a trauma.


The world we live in is broken, and God designed us to live in a perfect world.


Romans 8:22 For we know that the whole creation groans and suffers the pains of childbirth together until now. And not only they but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.

I love mysteries, and I recall reading about Lord Peter Wimsey, a Character in Dorothy Sayers books. He fought in World War 1 and experienced what they called shell shock. Doctors believed the exploding bombs created damage to the nervous system creating a panicky feeling, heart racing, trouble breathing, trembling, anxiety, and inability to focus.

This trauma associated with the military also had other names, Nostalgia, soldier’s heart, irritable heart, battle fatigue.  It was also called railway spine since many soldiers traveled on the railroad.

Now we understand that anyone subjected to trauma can exhibit these symptoms.

There is a story about the last wife of Henry VIII of England. He was known for divorcing or beheading his wives. When Katheryn Parr learned he had ordered her arrest, she assumed she was headed for the execution.She was so terrified, that she hid.

Even today our complex world stress creates issues for all of us. My guest today is Dr. Laurel Shaler. She has just written about overcoming stress and trauma.

Learn more about Dr. Shaler here.



Child-Rearing Tips from Heritage of Truth

August 25, 2017

I was raised in a Chrisitan home, but as I got older, I didn’t realize the value of my upbringing. In my teens, I thought less of my parents and questioned the way they did things. One day a college student commented how strong I was because I had been exposed to Scripture all my life. I thought her comment odd. But now that I am older and have raised five children, I understand what she meant. I’ve seen the impact of God’s word in my life. God’s truth, guides us, protects us and keeps us safe.

Today my guest is Jeanne Dennis. She founded Heritage of Truth which reaches out to parents offering child-rearing tips and materials.

You can learn about her ministry here.



Does Science Contradict the Bible?

August 18, 2017

In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. Those are incredible words that give us worth and moral standards.

Today science and the Bible appears to be a huge contradiction, and that has been the case ever since Darwin published in 1859. Until that time, scientists wanted to believe life came into being gradually, but that had no mechanism to make that plausible. Darwin was the first person to suggest that small changes in living creatures might create new types of animals over time. He noted what amounted to selective breeding, which Mendel described around the same time Darwin wrote his book. Darwin’s new book overshadowed Mendel’s work plus it changed science and society as a result.

To be credible in the scientific world, you have to assume natural causes for everything we observe. Which means you leave out the possibility of the supernatural.  Anyone who does not receives the disdain of the scientific community.

Randy C.  Dockens has just finished a book called T-H-B. It’s a novel that challenges the underlying basis for today’s battle between science and the Bible. He has a doctorate in pharmacokinetics and Biblical prophecy and believes science and faith go hand in hand.

Learn more about him here.


Randy C. Dockens









Use Healthy Self-Talk to Rise Above Tough Times

August 11, 2017
self talk

Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your sight, Oh, Lord my Rock and my Redeemer.” Ps 19: 14

Do you ever talk to yourself? So many women feel they shouldn’t be doing that, however, I believe it’s very healthy. I have a disabled son and he had to learn to talk out loud to remember what he was doing and stay organized. In the midst of a trial, we all battle negative thoughts and worry. Self-talk helps to refute those nasty ideas that bog you down.

Today my guest is Karen Jordan. She lived through a difficult time: the illness and death of her mother. Using what she learned from that,  she has written a book called Words that Change Everything.

1:50 Do all women worry?

2:55 What makes us worriers?

4:07 Is worry a natural emotion?

4:35 What are some strategies you use when you start to worry?

5:27 How many of those thoughts were put there by our enemy?



Learn more about Karen here.

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Decision Making

Decision Making: Think, Pray, Ask Advice First

August 4, 2017
Decision Making

Decision making? I’m the kind of person who likes to get things done-yesterday.There’s nothing wrong with being like that. The world needs people like us, but it’s hard for someone with a type ‘A’ personality to wait on God. It feels like the world will end if we don’t settle the issue now. Sometimes that means we rush into things and make mistakes.

I love Amazon Prime. Your order comes right away rather than three weeks later, and you avoid traffic and huge parking lots around the mall.

For years I’ve been buying online, so when my tall son needed an extra-long twin mattress, I found one on a website. (not Amazon) However, making that purchase was a huge blunder. I received this ridiculously heavy package containing a vinyl thing that needed blowing up. It wasn’t at all suitable for a real bed. And because I didn’t get what this store called, ‘return insurance,’ I had to pay a fortune to return it.

I learned to investigate first, and I try to squelch that urge to get the item by tomorrow.

Athena Dean Holtz is my guest. She is a doer, like me, and she made some bad decisions in the past. Her newest book, Full Circle, tells how God navigated her through her own poor choices.

Find her book here.
Learn more about her here.

Putting Others First

Welcoming August 2017

July 31, 2017
The Art of Living is #OthersCentered_August 2017

We invite you to walk along our side as we set our minds toward eternity versus things of this world. Whether it’s Humbling Yourself Before God, or Praying For Those With Sexual Addictions, let our #OthersCentered August calendar be your Soul Coach and watch in amazement how God moves. To print click here.

Mealtime Prayers

A Spoonful of Grace: Mealtime Prayers

July 29, 2017
mealtime prayers

I grew up in a Christian home. We seldom ate breakfast together because of my father’s work schedule, but we dined together at the evening meal. Typically, my dad would pray before we ate, however, sometimes, he rambled as if he forgot we waited for him to finish.  I was usually hungry and my frustration would build as he prayed for every missionary and every tragic situation the around the world. While I admired his zeal, I wished he would save his urgent pleas for another time.

As a result, my husband and I chose short blessings at mealtime. One of my boys complained about how we handled this area, and he was right. Looking back, I think our prayers seemed too mechanical and rote. However, we intended our mealtime prayers to be efficient in response to my childhood experience.

My grandfather, however, joined my family for dinner often. I loved his prayers. He would often pray, “Lord help us to live the way we wished we had when we stand before you.” He’s gone now, but that prayer stands out in my mind because he prayed with such humility.

Prayer before meals can be a precious time as you teach, worship together and chat. Annette Hubbell believed this family time important enough to write a book of prayers.  She just released A Spoonful of Grace which includes prayers and topics for discussion.

Find here here.

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