Abuse of Authority, Art, Boundaries, Communication, Emotions, Encouragement, Fighting in Marriage, Forgiveness, Freedom, Getting Published, Goals, Heart of the Matter, Marriage, People Pleaser, Perfectionist, Rights, Safety, Self-Esteem, Trust, Waiting, Wearing a Mask, Writing

Worried About Perfection? Here’s Some Useful Advice

June 19, 2017

Worried about Perfection? Here’s Some Useful Advice

1 Peter 1:15 but 1alike the Holy One who called you, 2bbe holy yourselves also in all your behavior;

That’s a tough command. Nevertheless, that’s what God asks us to do. None of us are perfect, but I sure want to be.  I was the at the top of my classes in school, and I always hated the fact that I missed that one question on the test.

As an adult, I’m always trying to improve and grow as a person.

But, I’m out of school, and I don’t get grades anymore. Plus my kids are grown, I’m realizing more and more how that desire drives me. I also think about that passage in Phil 3 where Paul said he strives for the resurrection of the dead. He wanted to achieve the perfection he would have in his resurrected body.

This is a great goal, but how do we live with ourselves when we face our fallen nature? Where’s the boundary of Romans 8:1 “There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus?”

Striving to become as godly as we can while recognizing and forgiving ourselves for failing. That’s a huge job.

Today my guest is Doc Hensley, he is Professor of Communication (Professional Writing concentration) in the Communication Department at Taylor University in Upland, Indiana, and an annual judge for the Evangelical Press Association Awards and the Christy Fiction Awards. He has around five dozen books in print. One of his latest, Pseudonym, gets inside a woman’s mind and deals with several issues we face such as perfectionism and abuse.

1:55 What is the balance between trying to be holy and our desire for perfection?

3:05 How did you climb inside a woman’s mind?

6:08 The consequences of marrying an insecure man.

8:18 Do we women want the applause of others?

Learn more about Doc here.

Doc Hensley

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Authority of Scripture, Bible, Bible Study, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Heart of the Matter, Spiritual Disciiplines, Walking by Faith

Transformation Through God’s Living and Active Word

June 17, 2017
Transformation Through God's Word

Transformation Through God’s Word

Hebrews 4:12 says, for the word if God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of joints and marrow and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.

This verse talks about the Bible and it’s very interesting as it explains what it does. One of the things I did as a homeschool mother was categorizing things with my children. Two categories are living versus nonliving material.  We recognize that a rock is nonliving whereas a bug is living. The scripture said the word of God is alive even though it’s words on paper. However, I have learned that at times, especially times of crisis. The word of God would leap off the page. I understood it before, but at those moments I had a deeper understanding. Plus at those moments the word ministered to me more deeply that I thought possible. God’s word will show you where you need to change. I have to say I’ve seen the Bible be what this verse describes: living and active.

“Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.”

The words Jesus said tell us the value of words from God’s mouth. We need them more than food. Because even if we die, we still have God. He’s what we need. The origin of this came from the time when Moses explained to the Israelites what God was doing when he tested them. He wanted them to realize the felt need they had for food wasn’t their biggest need. Their biggest need was God. He could provide food from heaven, if he chose. And he did. So far from saying our physical life has no value, the spiritual trumps the physical. We require the words from God to survive in this life and the next.

Andy Lee

Abuse of Authority, Anger, Authority of Scripture, Bible, Bible Study, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Educating your children, Emotions, Freedom, Heart of the Matter, Parenting, People Pleaser, Submission, Truth, Worry

Attention Control Girls: Learning to Let Go!

June 2, 2017
Learning to Let Go

Attention Control Girls: Learning to Let Go!

Have you ever had a friend pull you off to the side and say, “Watch out for Emmaline. She’ll be telling you what to do if you aren’t careful.”?

No one likes a woman who has to run every event herself, and our kids really hate it once they are grown. At that point, they are ready to choose for themselves.

A couple years ago, my husband and I started ballroom dancing. We love it. However, I have learned things about myself. The man leads while dancing. His job is to move forward and make his way around the room, avoiding other dancers. When I am facing him, I can’t see where we are going.  I am so accustomed to getting things done that relaxing so he can lead is a real challenge. It takes real effort, but these dance lessons taught me how much I needed to be in control.

What a great spiritual lesson for all of us. Look at what the Psalmist says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. When you trust God, you must rest in him, knowing he can do what you cannot.

Today Shannon Popkin is my guest. She has just written the book, Control Girl.

Shannon’s bio;

I’m Shannon Popkin. I’m a wife and mom, a writer and speaker, a small group leader and Bible teacher. I’m so excited about my new book, Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible.,  which released in January 2017). With God’s help, I’m on a path that leads from Control Girl to Jesus Girl.
As a speaker, I love combining my love for humor and storytelling and with my passion for Jesus. I speak for ladies’ events, retreats, and moms groups. On my blog, I share stories from my life, which I hope will make you smile, and will encourage you to follow Jesus more closely. I also share posts from the other sites that I contribute to, including True Women.
Learn more here.
Control Girl

Shannon Popkin

Authority of Scripture, Bible, Bondage breaker, Commitment to Christ, Emotions, Freedom, Love, Redemption, Relationships, Respect, Rights, Self-Esteem

Breaking Free: Accept How God Made You

May 27, 2017

Breaking Free: Accepting How God Made You:

I’m a big fan of history, and I love to read diaries. Once I read a diary about a girl who lived just before the Civil War. She was an older adolescent at the time. One day she was visiting a friend, and as she walked down the hall, she saw a reflection in the mirror she assumed was her friend. Warm thoughts filled her mind about how lovely and poised she was. However, as she got closer to the sitting room, she realized the mirror was catching a reflection of her own face. She was amazed at how her opinion changed and she found fault with that same reflection she had formerly admired. At that moment she knew she would have liked what she saw if she saw herself from someone else’s perspective.

That story fascinates me because I think that represents what a lot of women feel. We look in the mirror and do not like what we see, yet we long to be attractive. For instance, I have curly hair. For years I wished for straight hair and went to lots of effort to make it appear less curly. As far as our abilities or talents, we don’t take those into account either.

Scripture says Greater love has no man than this, than a man lay down his life for a friend. (John 15:13) Jesus left behind his glory and even some of his privileges as God to lay down his life for us. If God loves us that much we are worth a lot.

If we are going to minister to others, we need to have healthy relationships valuing ourselves with our gifts and strengths as God does.

Tina Yeager is my guest today. She is a counselor and a life coach and this topic is one she will address today.

Tina Yeager

Learn more about Tina here.

 

 

 

 

 

Anger, Babies, Balance, Child Development, chocolate, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Doing Family God's Way, Editing your work, Educating your children, Emotions, Encouragement, Family, Guilt, Heart of the Matter, Home Atmosphere, Humor, Keeping our focus, Mother's Day, Mothering, Mothering Advice, Parenting, Praise, Putting Others First, Relationships, Respect, Trust

Mother’s Day: Mother Daughter Duo: Rhonda and Kaley Rhea Co-Authors

May 18, 2017

Mother’s Day: Mother and Daughter Duo: Rhonda and Kaley C0-Authors

As a little girl, I looked up to my mother. I can recall sitting on the couch beside her, her admiring her. She was pretty, smart, and was … a mother. I wanted to be like her. As I grew older and got into my teens, I began to feel like we didn’t communicate. We didn’t have a lot in common, or at least I thought so. There was a communication barrier there I failed to understand.

Now that she is gone, I understand her better because she wrote a lot, and I was able to get a peek inside her mind. And I know I’m a lot like her.

Mother’s Day receives mixed reviews. Some of you may have had great mothers, and you enjoy honoring her. Others had a difficult childhood and may try not to repeat the mistakes your mother made. I remember Mother’s day as painful after I lost my mother. Plus those of you with difficult children may find this season painful.

My heart goes out to all of you who might be hurting.

Today I’d like to give young mothers some guidance on doing well, overcoming obstacles and feeling confident in this important job.

I’m reminded of what Paul said to I Timothy: He obviously believed Timothy’s mother and grandmother impacted his life. “For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother, Lois, and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well.”

My guests are Rhonda Rhea and her daughter Kaley. They are the authors of Turtles in the Road, an inspirational humorous romance that’s just releasing. They are both TV personalities for Christian Television Network’s KNLJ in mid-Missouri. Rhonda is also a nationally-known speaker, humor columnist and author of 11 other books, including Fix-Her-Upper, a soon-releasing nonfiction project coauthored with Beth Duewel. Rhonda is married to her pastor/husband, Richie Rhea, and they have five grown children. Kaley works at Missouri Baptist University and she and Rhonda both live in the St. Louis area.

Learn more about Rhonda and Kaley here.

Rhonda and Kaley

Babies, Emotions, Family, Heart of the Matter, Making choices, Morning Sickness, Mother's Day, Mothering, Mothering Advice, Parenting, Pregnancy, Raising a Son

Mother’s Day: Veteran Mom Angela Breidenbach Shares Her Story

May 5, 2017
Veteran Mom

Mother’s Day: Veteran Mom Angela Breidenbach Shares Wisdom

As Mother’s Day nears I think of the passage in Luke where Jesus told stood over Jerusalem and commented he wanted to gather then under his wings. Luke 13:34 “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones those sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, just as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you would not have it!

That’s such a strong image of mothering, perspective on but if you look at the passage, he’s angry. As he says those words, he must have had strong nurturing feelings toward the nation of Israel, but this nation he founded wasn’t interested in him. How difficult.

Being a mother is not easy. Babies don’t come with an owner’s manual, yet each child is so different so we mothers need wisdom. Obviously, mothers should pray because we need divine guidance. Also, in Titus, God tells older mothers to teach the younger women how to love their husbands and children.

As we near Mother’s Day, I thought it would be fun to talk to some mothers about their experiences a perspective on the hard times and the good times.

My guest is Angela Breidenbach.

Anglea Breidenbach raised six children and is a bestselling Montana author and the host of Lit Up! with Angela Breidenbach, Grace Under Pressure Radio and Historically Speaking. Angela serves nationally as the Christian Author Network’s (CAN) president. With a volume of appearances online, television, stage, and radio Angela loves to share her knowledge to help others.

Angela with Her First Son, courage, a

Angela with Her Blended Family

Angela with Her Two Youngest Sons

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Art, Avoiding humdrum, Creativity, Spiritual Disciiplines

Christians CAN Enjoy Beauty and Create Art

April 30, 2017
Christians can create beauty and enjoy art

Christians CAN Enjoy Beauty and Create Art

Many Christians in the past have avoided the arts. Many Christians coming out of the Reformation feared beauty and all that was related since they worried about it might corrupt the church. After all, Satan’s beauty corrupted him.

I think it’s time we rethink that, and I will tell you why.

I grow orchids, and I love watching them come into bloom. First, an orchid forms a bud, which swells gradually swells until the petals separate. What am an amazing experience! I feel like I am watching God’s hand at work. Many orchids have an intoxicating aroma that’s only present during the day while the flower is fresh. Watching this beauty unfold taught me something about God. I truly believe he is incredibly stunning. The psalms agree.

Watching this beauty unfold taught me something about God. I truly believe he is incredibly stunning. The psalms agree.  You’ll see verses there that talk about his majesty.

However, in times past, Christians have avoided beauty and creative art since they saw it as a stumbling block. After all, Satan was gorgeous, but he became self-absorbed and fell into sins. The Catholic church had a similar problem. After the reformation, Puritans built their churches simply without the glitter of popery.

The arts and beauty can be part of our lives. I recall that runner, Eric Lidell, who said he felt God’s presence when he ran. I feel that way with my orchids.

Lora Zill is my guest today. She is an artist and has written about creativity for the believer.

Lora Zill

 

 

 

 

 

Learn more about Lora here and here.

2:00 Why are the arts important?

2:40 As a busy mom, how can you create beauty?

3:45 Decorating your house?

4:40 What if you are struggling financially? Doesn’t creativity and beauty take a back seat?

7:25 How can creativity become a spiritual discipline?

10:50 Talk about giving God pleasure and feeling he is pleased when you create.

8:15 talk about how the artist communicates to us.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Betrayal, Boundaries, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Emotions, Encouragement, Making choices, Marriage, Relationships, Respect, Safety, Wearing a Mask

Relationships: Living without Masks and being Safe

April 25, 2017
Relationships

Relationships: Living without Masks and being Safe

My daughter is grown and has her own kitty. Her cat loves to eat and is overweight. The vet has put kitty on a very strict diet, so she is careful how she feeds him. one day I was visiting Joy and the kitty was very obviously trying to get fed earlier than usual. As a veteran mom, I was watching her struggle with her cat, I had images of me trying to make my kids behave.

However, she saw me laughing and assumed I was worried about the cat, instead of enjoying the situation. She huffed into the kitchen and fed the cat early. At that point, I was very worried that she misunderstood me and thought I was pressuring her when I was not.

Later, I apologized and tried to make it clear what I was doing. I didn’t want this to be one of those things that became a tug of war between mother and daughter.

We are made to be in relationships, but the give and take of relationships is not easy.

Today I have Laura Petherbridge. We are going to talk about living openly and yet being safe.

1:55 Why shouldn’t you rescue your friends?

2:25 It feels like you are helping them. Why isn’t that true?

4:05 Could we be doing it because we have a poor self-image?

5:40 What’s the difference in enabling and helping an injured person?

10:20 What drives us to be people pleasers?

12:35 What if you cannot tell your spouse you need to work on your relationship? Isn’t that unhealthy?

14:45 What do you mean by marriage with a mask?

20:00 Why do hurting people hurt others?

23:00 Just becoming a Christian does not solve all your problems.

23:50 How did you heal from your ‘daddy wound’?

26:00 What that an epiphany for you?

Author and Speaker

Laura Petherbridge

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Learn more about Laura here.

Apologetics, Commitment to Christ, Communication, Death, Easter, Educating your children, Heart of the Matter, Hope, Passover, Resurrection

Why Easter is the Most Important Christian Holiday

April 14, 2017

Why Easter is the Most Important Christian Holiday

Rabbits don’t lay eggs, they bear live young. Someone told me the story of a pagan holiday combined with Christianity. Something about a fertility celebration? It wasn’t Christian, but it got mixed in. However, I found family movies of my first Easter. My brother and I had Easter baskets, chocolate eggs, and fancy outfits. Watching my parents follow me around while I wore my pretty dress almost makes tears come to my eyes. (They are both in heaven.)  In later years, I do remember picking out my fancy clothes and dying eggs for Easter egg hunts. We always went to church to sing and praise God for the resurrection.  However, despite the fact what we celebrated every year, I didn’t”t realize how important Easter was until I got older.  It may have been my fault for not listening, but I didn’t get it. Now I do.

My guest is my husband, Ray Simmons. He’s a Bible teacher and elder at Grace Community Church. We chose a different tradition raising our children, and he will explain why Easter is so important.

Ray Simmons leading Passover

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1:00 Why is Easter so important?

2:10 What evidence do we have that Christ rose?

 

 

 

 

Learn more about doing a Messianic Passover here or here.

Armor of God, Bible, Commitment to Christ, Emotions, Encouragement, Heart of the Matter, Hope, Keeping our focus, Living through heartache, Making choices, Perseverance, Walking by Faith

Spiritual Warfare: Persevere with the Armor of God

April 12, 2017
Persevere with the armor

Spiritual Warfare: Persevere with the Armor of God

We are in the midst of a war, how can we find the stamina to keep going? Let me tell you a story.

Let me tell you a story. I have a disabled child and I homeschooled. I took him in for evaluation and the person I used recommended I take him to professionals several days a week for therapy. Leaving that lady’s office, I wondered how I could follow her instructions with my four other kids. I chuckled to myself that I would have to put somebody up for adoption, something I’d never do.

This child’s issues broke my heart every day. When I tried teaching him the simplest jobs, he collapsed into brought blood-curdling screams. “I’m stupid. I’m stupid, I’m stupid.” For instance, teaching a child to count is easy. You pick up blocks and say one for the first, two for the second.The only problem was my son couldn’t do that. Picking up a block required he use his fingers with the right amount of pressure. It took too much concentration.  Saying the numbers in the right order, sequencing was also terribly hard. He could never do the two things at once. I never did do what the lady recommended.

I hired part-time therapists and worked on their goals until we met again. However, it was an inch by inch proposition whenever I taught him anything. He had neurological issues due to his seizures, and he could not concentrate. I had three seconds if I held my face to his, almost touching his nose. That makes teaching really tough. Many mornings I prayed fervently in my bedroom before I went downstairs to work with him.

As wives and mothers, we will face challenges. Where and how will we find the courage and perseverance to stick to the task? Katy Kauffman is my guest today. She has written a Bible study based on 2 Timothy, and it’s about perseverance.

2:50 What does God have to say about not giving up?

3:50 Describe perseverance for Jesus.

5:00  What do you think of Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane prior to his crucifixion?

6:10 How can we deal with those who reject Christ without being preachy?

8:00 What does the heart of a warrior look like?

Katy Kauffman

 

Learn more about Katy here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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