What is Your Identity?
When I was growing up, the style was to have straight hair that curled up on the ends, short skirts, and fishnet hose.
My hair is curly and would never look like the girls around me. Plus, my family insisted I dress modestly. Mother would not allow me to wear short skirts, and she thought fishnet hose silly. Add all that together, and I did not fit in.
My grandmother had come to live with me when I was nine, and she didn’t like girls. She went to work on my mind by letting me know I wasn’t worth a dime unless I performed whatever task she thought I should do. Yeah. I felt like the ugly duckling who didn’t belong anywhere. Insecure!
I’m very thankful that as I grew older I got involved in a church that taught the Bible deeply from the pulpit. I became caught up in the truths I learned and grew in my faith. The pastor even taught a class on how to study the Bible and I devoured every lesson.
Romans 5:8 says God demonstrates his love for us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ Died for us. I compared my insecurities to God’s love for me and realized He valued me. Over time I came to realize Satan leaves his mark on everyone, not just me. A lot of my insecurities vanished in the light of God’s Word. Sometimes I have to battle my heart with what I know, but I understand God loves me.
Like me, lots of women feel they don’t fit, or else see themselves as less valuable because they suffered abuse in their childhood. Today my guest is Dr. Deb Waterbury. Because she suffered gang rape in her childhood, she had a battle too, but she found answers. She just finished the book, The Lies that Bind and the Truth that Sets You Free.
Find Deb here.