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Use Healthy Self-Talk to Rise Above Tough Times

August 11, 2017
self talk

Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your sight, Oh, Lord my Rock and my Redeemer.” Ps 19: 14

Do you ever talk to yourself? So many women feel they shouldn’t be doing that, however, I believe it’s very healthy. I have a disabled son and he had to learn to talk out loud to remember what he was doing and stay organized. In the midst of a trial, we all battle negative thoughts and worry. Self-talk helps to refute those nasty ideas that bog you down.

Today my guest is Karen Jordan. She lived through a difficult time: the illness and death of her mother. Using what she learned from that,  she has written a book called Words that Change Everything.

1:50 Do all women worry?

2:55 What makes us worriers?

4:07 Is worry a natural emotion?

4:35 What are some strategies you use when you start to worry?

5:27 How many of those thoughts were put there by our enemy?

 

 

Learn more about Karen here.

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Decision Making

Decision Making: Think, Pray, Ask Advice First

August 4, 2017
Decision Making

Decision making? I’m the kind of person who likes to get things done-yesterday.There’s nothing wrong with being like that. The world needs people like us, but it’s hard for someone with a type ‘A’ personality to wait on God. It feels like the world will end if we don’t settle the issue now. Sometimes that means we rush into things and make mistakes.

I love Amazon Prime. Your order comes right away rather than three weeks later, and you avoid traffic and huge parking lots around the mall.

For years I’ve been buying online, so when my tall son needed an extra-long twin mattress, I found one on a website. (not Amazon) However, making that purchase was a huge blunder. I received this ridiculously heavy package containing a vinyl thing that needed blowing up. It wasn’t at all suitable for a real bed. And because I didn’t get what this store called, ‘return insurance,’ I had to pay a fortune to return it.

I learned to investigate first, and I try to squelch that urge to get the item by tomorrow.

Athena Dean Holtz is my guest. She is a doer, like me, and she made some bad decisions in the past. Her newest book, Full Circle, tells how God navigated her through her own poor choices.

Find her book here.
Learn more about her here.

Putting Others First

Welcoming August 2017

July 31, 2017
The Art of Living is #OthersCentered_August 2017

We invite you to walk along our side as we set our minds toward eternity versus things of this world. Whether it’s Humbling Yourself Before God, or Praying For Those With Sexual Addictions, let our #OthersCentered August calendar be your Soul Coach and watch in amazement how God moves. To print click here.

Mealtime Prayers

A Spoonful of Grace: Mealtime Prayers

July 29, 2017
mealtime prayers

I grew up in a Christian home. We seldom ate breakfast together because of my father’s work schedule, but we dined together at the evening meal. Typically, my dad would pray before we ate, however, sometimes, he rambled as if he forgot we waited for him to finish.  I was usually hungry and my frustration would build as he prayed for every missionary and every tragic situation the around the world. While I admired his zeal, I wished he would save his urgent pleas for another time.

As a result, my husband and I chose short blessings at mealtime. One of my boys complained about how we handled this area, and he was right. Looking back, I think our prayers seemed too mechanical and rote. However, we intended our mealtime prayers to be efficient in response to my childhood experience.

My grandfather, however, joined my family for dinner often. I loved his prayers. He would often pray, “Lord help us to live the way we wished we had when we stand before you.” He’s gone now, but that prayer stands out in my mind because he prayed with such humility.

Prayer before meals can be a precious time as you teach, worship together and chat. Annette Hubbell believed this family time important enough to write a book of prayers.  She just released A Spoonful of Grace which includes prayers and topics for discussion.

Find here here.

Unsinkable Faith

Unsinkable Faith: Transform the Way You Think, Feel, Live

July 20, 2017
Unsinkable faith

When I was young, Christian bookstores started selling promise boxes. Each card in the box had a promise from the bible and you were supposed to pull out one to read every day and think about.

There’s one promise in the Bible they probably didn’t include: John 16 Jesus says “In the world you have tribulation”

I doubt anyone would be thrilled to hear this, but unfortunately, those words come true more often than we would like.

And I have been there. Starting in 2008 with my husband becoming seriously ill, I had an avalanche of tough stuff land on me. I felt like Job. And this lasted for several years. The length and intensity of this time finally wore me down. Sunny days were terrible because I felt dark. How could the world be bright when I was so worn down?

Negative thoughts were a problem. I already knew about James 1: “Count it all joy when you encounter various trials,” and Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is 1lovely, whatever is 2of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things.” However,  I needed to heal from the trauma and find my way back toward hope.

Even though my faith remained strong, healing took time.

Today we live in a post-Christian world, which has abandoned faith and reason. People often live by their emotions, which quickly get out of control and spiral downward. Plus those unbiblical ideas are leaking into the church. That’s not good. Tracie Miles had an avalanche of heartache like I did and chose to write about what she learned. Her new book is called, Unsinkable Faith: God-filled strategies to Transform the Way You Think, Feel, and Live.

Find Tracie here.

 

Spiritual Warfare

Winning Your Daily Spiritual Battles

July 13, 2017
Battle

Would you like to fight a battle? I can’t say I do, however,  we live in a world full of upheaval. My thoughts and prayers go to the recent victims of terror in Manchester and in London. These attacks add to the long string of terror we have been hearing about. But there’s another war out there that’s been raging a long time too. It’s spiritual warfare, and it’s just as real. A number of years ago a friend and I led and Lady’s Sunday school class together. She’d teach several weeks and then pass the lesson off to me. The moment it was my turn, I was barraged by unpleasant thoughts. Sometimes it was worse than others, but I had to evaluate each nasty thought and ask myself if God would say that.

Also in 2008, the moment I entered the writing world, I felt it too. I would wake in the morning, and my first feelings were condemnation being poured over me. “You think you can write?”

My husband fell ill with a serious disease. He was and is a serious Bible teacher. Highly intellectual. And the doctor discovered his brain was infected. Let me tell you, nothing could be more devastating to one who is brilliant. It was a very personal attack. My mind went back to the story of Job. God allowed Satan to hurt job. But. He said you may go this far and no more. I truly believe the Lord allowed warfare at that time, but he stopped Satan from totally destroying my husband.

Today my guest is Linda Evans Shepherd. She has just completed a book called Winning Your Daily Spiritual Battles. She will share with us how to win.

Learn more about Linda Evans Shepherd here.

Battle

Linda Evans Shepherd

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Identity

Avoid Deception and Be Empowered By Your Identity

July 7, 2017
Identity

What is Your Identity?

When I was growing up, the style was to have straight hair that curled up on the ends, short skirts, and fishnet hose.

My hair is curly and would never look like the girls around me. Plus, my family insisted I dress modestly. Mother would not allow me to wear short skirts, and she thought fishnet hose silly. Add all that together, and I did not fit in.

My grandmother had come to live with me when I was nine, and she didn’t like girls. She went to work on my mind by letting me know I wasn’t worth a dime unless I performed whatever task she thought I should do. Yeah. I felt like the ugly duckling who didn’t belong anywhere.  Insecure!

I’m very thankful that as I grew older I got involved in a church that taught the Bible deeply from the pulpit. I became caught up in the truths I learned and grew in my faith. The pastor even taught a class on how to study the Bible and I devoured every lesson.

Romans 5:8 says God demonstrates his love for us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ Died for us. I compared my insecurities to God’s love for me and realized He valued me. Over time I came to realize Satan leaves his mark on everyone, not just me. A lot of my insecurities vanished in the light of God’s Word. Sometimes I have to battle my heart with what I know, but I understand God loves me.

Like me, lots of women feel they don’t fit, or else see themselves as less valuable because they suffered abuse in their childhood. Today my guest is Dr. Deb Waterbury. Because she suffered gang rape in her childhood, she had a battle too, but she found answers. She just finished the book, The Lies that Bind and the Truth that Sets You Free.

Find Deb here.

 

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Deb Waterbury

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finances

End the Fighting! You Can Achieve Financial Freedom

June 30, 2017

Money! I keep thinking of the popular song that was played when I was a teen.  Karen Carpenter beautifully sang about how little money she and her husband had, yet they loved each other intensely.  When I was younger, I thought that was so romantic.  Everyone would say love gets you through anything, including poverty.  Now, I know living with a constant battle over how to spend what you do have makes marriage much harder.

I can recall how difficult it was for us when we first married. My husband was adamant that we needed a budget, and he kept trying to make one.

Every few days, he’d come to me with a new idea and explain how it would work. That was 39 years ago,  but I don’t remember any details about the first submissions. However, he finally contrived something that worked, and we’ve stayed on that for years.

I know many couples end up disagreeing and arguing over money. Many young married folk today bring school debt to marriage.  Money is such a tough issue because we all have needs and wants. Sometimes it’s truly hard to know which is which.

My husband would say, “Do you need that? Or do you just want that?” It was hard to admit sometimes I wanted it for selfish reasons. Oh, the conversations we had and the ache. Yet we never had a huge debt to pay off.

Some of you just barely make it and live from paycheck to paycheck.  How can we honor God with our money? Today my guest is Stephanie Beck. She and her husband do financial counseling and help couples overcome debt. Use the links below to contact them HERE. Or, email them: coaches@beckfc.com.

Stephanie Beck and her husband do financial counseling

 

Caring for your body

Rise and Hustle: Personal Trainer Offers New Approach to Fitness

June 30, 2017
New Approach to Fitness

Exercise has never been my favorite activity. In school, I was one of the scholarly kids, and sweating never made me happy. Gym class was terrible because the teacher’s goal was to wear me out. Unfortunately I am not terribly coordinated either, so whenever we played volleyball, I hated serving. I’d put my hand behind me to slap that ball, however, I almost always missed it. Embarrassing!

The teacher’s goal was to wear me out. Unfortunately I am not terribly coordinated either, so whenever we played volleyball, I hated serving. I’d put my hand behind me to slap that ball, however, I almost always missed it. Embarrassing!

As I continued studying, I learned the Bible uses certain metaphors the Olympics and exercise.  “…everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. I therefore so run, not as uncertainly; so fight I, not as one that beneath the air: I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway. ”

That passage talks about self-control, and that’s a good thing. Lack of self-control in diet and exercise can become a problem. Since I hate exercise, it took me a long time to start exercising regularly. After keeping a routine for years, I can’t say I like it, but I know I feel better if I keep exercise in my routine.

Today Mike Whitfield is my guest. He’s a personal trainer who just wrote a book called, Rise and Hustle.

2:00 Why did you write this book?

3:55 Ninety minutes a day? If that’s a minute and a half, that doesn’t seem long enough.

5:10 They read this book first and then exercise?

6:00 How does your book help?

Mike Whitfield

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

www.riseandhustle.com

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Boundaries

Worried About Perfection? Here’s Some Useful Advice

June 19, 2017

1 Peter 1:15 but 1alike the Holy One who called you, 2bbe holy yourselves also in all your behavior;

That’s a tough command. Nevertheless, that’s what God asks us to do. None of us are perfect, but I sure want to be.  I was the at the top of my classes in school, and I always hated the fact that I missed that one question on the test.

As an adult, I’m always trying to improve and grow as a person.

But, I’m out of school, and I don’t get grades anymore. Plus my kids are grown, I’m realizing more and more how that desire drives me. I also think about that passage in Phil 3 where Paul said he strives for the resurrection of the dead. He wanted to achieve the perfection he would have in his resurrected body.

This is a great goal, but how do we live with ourselves when we face our fallen nature? Where’s the boundary of Romans 8:1 “There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus?”

Striving to become as godly as we can while recognizing and forgiving ourselves for failing. That’s a huge job.

Today my guest is Doc Hensley, he is Professor of Communication (Professional Writing concentration) in the Communication Department at Taylor University in Upland, Indiana, and an annual judge for the Evangelical Press Association Awards and the Christy Fiction Awards. He has around five dozen books in print. One of his latest, Pseudonym, gets inside a woman’s mind and deals with several issues we face such as perfectionism and abuse.

1:55 What is the balance between trying to be holy and our desire for perfection?

3:05 How did you climb inside a woman’s mind?

6:08 The consequences of marrying an insecure man.

8:18 Do we women want the applause of others?

Learn more about Doc here.

Doc Hensley

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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