Secrets of Forgiving Yourself and Having Good Relationships

March 16, 2018

Do you have a tough time forgiving yourself?

Several years ago my son and my husband were sparring in a karate class, and my son threw a punch that broke his father’s nose. My son has a very sensitive nature, and son he felt so badly that we had to keep the story under wraps while my husband recovered from surgery to repair the break. The situation was an accident, and yet we knew our son well enough to know he would not forgive himself if we said anything.

We women have that problem too. Our hearts are so sensitive that makes us unable to let go of our own mistakes even though others forgave us. I include myself in this too, because I need to see myself as God does rather than expect perfection. (Oh, how I long to be perfect!)

2 Corinthians 2:7 so you should rather turn to forgive and comfort him, or he may be by excessive sorrow. (2 Cor. 2:7 ESV) overwhelmed

In these verses, the Apostle Paul talks about someone being overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. The Apostle had judged him for his sin, and the church had done appropriate church discipline. The man stopped sinning but could not seem to let go of his sorrow.

Sarah Sundin tells a similar story in her newest book.

You can find Sarah here.


This is How Rest Can Save Your Life

March 10, 2018

Do you get enough rest?

I have five children, and I homechooled all of them through high school. My youngest child had very significant learning issues, and I took classes to address his special needs.

Let me tell you, I know what fatigue is. After I completed a day of teaching, I would collapse on the coach and stare at the walls. Normally I am a creative person, but at the end of the day, I could not even compose a single sentence, and part of me would be frustrated by my sluggishness.

I had nothing left. I needed rest.

And I remember juggling laundry and cooking. At the time, my washing machine ate socks. Determined not to ever give up, I kept a container of odd socks hoping some day they would match something.

One day after I had crashed in my bedroom, I heard one of my kids say, “Hey do you have any odd socks I can borrow?” That struck me as funny. But really, there’s a chaos that accompanies large families.

But I could not allow myself time off. I felt guilty. At some point I began to realize I was burning too much oil, and needed refreshment.

I came to realize the importance of Ps 23. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, He restores my soul.

Hebrews 4:9 There remains therefore a Sabbath rest for the people of God.

Today I listen to my body and stop when I sense fatigue. Back then I had no idea I was tired.

Rest is something Americans don’t do. We have more technology and can do more faster. And we cram in more than we should.

Today I have Dr. Saundra Dalton Smith. She is a doctor, Internal medicine. She has written about rest, and how to do it.

Learn more about Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith  here.

Cynthia Chats

I’m A Hot Mess… Are You?

March 8, 2018

Julie K. Gillies, author and prayer warrior joins Cynthia L. Simmons in Cynthia Chats with Chispa Magazine. They both come clean about being a hot mess, and it’s a good thing.  Join us as we learn how to turn ourselves 180 degrees toward a new you, a blessed you.


What Everybody Ought to Know About Forgiveness

March 2, 2018

Forgiveness can be hard. I will give an example. Once years ago, someone in authority hurt me  and my husband deeply.  I recall staying up all night crying at the horror. This individual thought we were overly sensitive and never acknowledged his deed. He never asked us to forgive. It was a nightmare. After the initial blow, my husband and I tried to mend fences but over time we realized that would never happen.

I recall wanting to hate this man and imagine someone beating him even though I knew such thoughts were wrong. I knew I needed to forgive, but I had no idea what to do when this person did not even acknowledge his guilt. At that time, I was homeschooling, and the story of Samson came up in the curriculum. I had always hated that story since it seemed so  unfair for an evil man to be used by God. However, as I read, I realized God knew what it took to bring Samson to his knees, and Samson repented.

That enabled me to let go because I knew God had my situation in hand also. He could make my story end the way it should in his timimg. God would take vengence and he woul not over do it or understate it. I could leave it with him.

That experience helps me walk away from hurts. I can let God have the ache because he knows the best thing to do.

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you. Eph. 4:29

My guest is Nan Self, and she has written a book called Make Space for Grace.  Learn more about Nan here.

Bible Study

Going Deeper: March Madness Scripture Challenge

March 1, 2018

We start this month off by asking: Are you dealing with some type of madness in your life? Are you seeking more of God’s Goodness or perhaps you’re wondering why He’s silent and you’re not? If you answered yes to any of these questions, know this: You’re not alone. For this reason, my team and I decided to challenge each other, and you, with some good ol-writing out the Bible time. We believe, writing out The Word, in only 10 minutes a day, will change our lives, forever. Ready to go deeper with us?

Download the March Madness “Others Centered” Challenge


Welcoming March 2018… Spring Into Goodness + God’s Perfect Plan

March 1, 2018

March, the month that welcomes spring and the month that ends with the start of Holy Week. Where do you want to be this month? Are you seeking more of God’s Goodness or perhaps you’re wondering why He’s silent and you’re not? In this month’s #OthersCentered Calendar we’re prompted to yes, love others, but also to seek within and discern, rather than absorb.

Download the March “Others Centered” Calendar


How to Handle a Major Life Crisis

February 23, 2018

Have you ever had to live through a crisis?

I grow orchids, and I typically repot then in the summer when I wasn’t homeschooling. On one occasion, I was on the back porch taking orchids out of pots, and stepped back into the kitchen to get something.  At that time, we had a huge fluorescent light in the kitchen work area, and I saw water pouring out of that light.

My first thought was that my husband would not like that. And then I wondered how water and electricity  would work together cause it usually doesn’t. I ran upstairs to the bathroom over the kitchn. The door to the bathroom was closed, but I heard water running.  So I wnt in and found the sink full of some clearning rags and water over flowing into the floor.

Naturally I turned off the water, but then I heard a big boom. And I went downstairs to the kitchen. That big light had fallen. What a mess. I was trying to decide what to do with the huge light in the floor and water still pouring out the ceiling.  Then my oldest son came up from the basement and told me water was coming through the ceiling down there in the finished area of the basement.

I was overwhelmed. I had stopped the source, but how could I stop the water already pouring through that house.

I called my husband, he wasn’t there. I called friends, neighors. No one answered. It was a Friday and no one stays home on Friday.

This story reminds me of that verse in John where Jesus said that we would have trouble in this life.  I was overwhelmed and needed help. Where is God when life falls apart.

We all want life to be normal, and not have hardships. However,  we groan in this life.

Romans 8:22 For we know that the whole creation groans and suffers the pains of childbirth together until now.

I found childbirth painful.

As long as we live in these bodies we groan because the world is broken.  A crisis will come.

My guest is Sarah Conaway. She is going to share her crisis and the hope she found.


Want to Live in Peace? Pray for the President

February 16, 2018

Do you want to live in peace? That may seem like a crazy question because everyone would say yes, but I’m serious. Look at I Timothy

1 Timothy 2:1 – 2 First of all, then, I urge that entreaties and prayers, petitions and thanksgivings, be made on behalf of all men, for kings and all who are in authority, in order that we may lead a tranquil and quiet life in all godliness and dignity.

This passage urges us to pray for those in authority over you, like the president. Look at the consequences. “in order that” means cause and effect. Your prayers result in giving you a ‘tranquil’ and ‘quiet life’. That sounds like peace to me, and living in godliness and dignity sound good too.

People in authority have a huge impact on our lives. In the Old Testament God punished the nation because King David numbered the people. So the actions and choices of those in power can impact our lives tremendously.

 Having leaders who follow truth and do good things benefits us all.


Plus, we see our prayers do have an influence.

But our leaders seem so far away. It’s important to remember that they are like people, just like we are. The more you know about them, the more you can pray wisely.

We are coming up on President’s day, so let’s learn something about our past presidents. Rebecca Price Janney shares stories of presidents and their pets. Fun!

Learn more about her here.


Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day: Keeping Love in Your Marriage

February 9, 2018

Valentine’s Day has arrived, and so we’ll see roses, chocolate, and fancy hearts all everywhere.  I’ve always found it fascinating and a little sad when men rush into stores with a desperate look on their faces, hoping they find a gift that keeps them out of trouble. However, I’m convinced that red fuzzy stuff has nothing to do with love. (Chocolate, maybe. LOL)

Everyone wants true romance that lasts a lifetime, not just on Valentines. But how can that happen? Many young people are dumping the idea of marriage to co habitation, as if marriage caused the problem.

We’ll turn to the Bible for answers. After all, God loved us first.

I Corinthians 13 says, “Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,

does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,

does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.

What a description! Can anyone live up to that?

My parents were married for almost fifty-six years when my mother passed away. So it is possible to have a wonderful, affectionate marriage despite the ups and downs life presents. Staying committed to showing your love makes the difference.

Life Coach, Angela Breidenbach is my guest. She has lots of ideas to guide you in following I Corinthians 13.

Learn more about Angela here.


You Can Be Pure-Hearted

February 2, 2018

Have you thought much about the word perfect. I have always wanted to be perfect, to be pure-hearted, but I fail.  And I feel guilty when I fail.

Several years ago I had a Sunday School for ladies. One Sunday I was working hard teaching. I’d write on the board and then talk about certain words in the text and how that applied to our lives. After I finished, I prayed and dismissed the class, a lady came up to me and told me the dres I had on was unbuttoned in the back. It was a dress that had covered buttons. Right in the middle, I missed two of them so that every time I turned around to write on the board, they could see my back.

That was not fun, in fact, I was horrified that they might be thinking of the bra I had on instead of the lesson I was trying to teach This kind lady fastened the buttons so I was no longer immodest for the entire church. The only thing I could be thankful for is that the class was full of ladies.

I did not want to distract but to draw women closer to God. How can we be pure-hearted? God calls us to be holy as he is holy. That’s a tall order. We want to do right and do it with the right attitude and the right motives.

How can we do that?

Kathy Collard Miller shares secrets from her new book, Pure-Hearted

Learn more about Kathy here.


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